To expect 15 year old DD to share a room with the family on holiday?

[NotTonightDeidre]

It's actually is DH being unreasonable. He thinks DD (15) should be happy to share a room with us all (me, him, DD2).

She doesn't want to share a room with us (she will share with me & sister, not her dad).

I can see where she's coming from but DH doesn't see her p.o.v.

me too

Camping? That's not a holiday.

Wonder if the 15 year old will be so bloody precious in a few years if she shows backpacking and stays in dorms

Expressing a preference is not ruling the roost.

She can choose not to go. But I bet you the parents will start whining that it’s not a family holiday if she’s not there.

Yes that too. DS17 chose to come

It is for a 15 yr old. Sharing a room with your parents is no holiday.

I think sharing a hotel room is fine for a couple of nights but for a week or more I can’t see what’s enjoyable about everyone being squished into one room. I would be looking for an apartment - even if it’s a one bedded one with someone sleeping on the sofa gives a lot more space.

Haven’t read the whole thread but, due to the children’s large age gap, have to ask… is he your older daughter’s biological father?

I think family rooms just aren’t big enough for two adults and two teen dc. We always book two rooms now. More often than not, teen DS and DD share as they get on well but we would be stifled in a room for four.

Poor mollycoddled kid. I first went to Paris on my own when I was 17. I was meeting friends but I was there alone for a couple of days first. It was amazing.

Heck no, that would be a terrible holiday.

I never shared with my parents, dad was a terrible snorer and I couldn't have slept a wink. I remember me and my siblings sharing and my parents always having a separate room. I do the same with my kids now, there is often a family room option that has separate spaces with a wall in between or connecting rooms. Everyone needs their space, teens especially!

Get it but I recall we had a family room once. Me, DH and 3 DD aged 15, 13 and 11.

Shockingly, one can do both. I holidayed with my parents and with my mates at that stage.

Back when I worked in hotels a 15 year old wouldn’t have been able to stay in a room by herself. I don’t know where you are going OP but it’s worth checking the age restrictions before falling out over this.

Very funny.

She feels how she feels. Her feelings are valid.

So did I, but not in a room with them.

My parents were really considerate of having teenagers. We took friends and they chose locations where we could go out and party. We had some fantastic family holidays.

This is an effing summer holiday, where you probably pay about 1k for a room for a week. And where you only going to use the said room to sleep at night. We are not talking about actual everyday living conditions here, you are aware of that?

If it was my teen they would be either sharing or staying at home. Its not about the money - its about spending it stupidly on something that's unnecessary.

Me & dh will be sharing a room with our 24 year old daughter in a couple of weeks to keep costs down.

Last night I shared a room with 22 year old DS (it’s way too expensive to get two rooms when there is an event on at Wembley)

we did all stop sharing as a family of four when DS was around 14/15 but that was only because the 4th child trundle bed in the premier inns were too small for him.

And my parents were on a budget. So what? I could have stayed home, but took them up on the offer.

So will all 4 of you be in 1room? What kind of holiday is it?

If she doesn’t have any valid concerns (you should check with her and hear her out) you could explain the price difference in upgrading rooms/location etc.. and see how she feels then?

You can get a whole house in Devon for 1k a week.

How much of a win is it for you if they stay home?

There’s such lack of respect for teenagers on this forum - what you and they see as ‘necessary’ may not be the same.

And that’s up to you.

Well there's either a need to pay for separate rooms or there isn't ...

Most families of 4 don't routinely all sleep in one room unless the children are very young. This is because it's generally understood that people like their own space and their own privacy. These things also apply on holiday and are not "ridiculous".

Isn’t that the entire point of the thread? The 15 year old can stay home if she doesn’t want to go on a holiday that is within her parents budget and wishes. That was my point anyway….