Was told a few weeks ago I have Crohn's but on holiday my husband just did this AIBU

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He brought back a huge haul of pastries- not only do our daughters 17 and 13 need to watch their weight (and he is about 4 stone overweight too) I cannot eat gluten.
It's not just a few treats - it two bags of donuts, pies, bread and custard donut things.
there are a couple of oat biscuits but I think they've got wheat in them. I have just really found out I have Crohn's disease and it is making me feel quite low that I can't enjoy the foods I used to. I have been trying to avoid wheat and some dairy products for awhile now because I noticed they were causing issues with my stomach. I've been really careful about my diet over the last few years and I was hoping to enjoy the old donut on holiday but obviously I can't. Am I being unreasonable to be angry at this?

Thank you - would that be a blood test?

Well sort of. You don't need cake to work out. And DD certainly doesn't.

I don't think the fact that you're on a restricted diet should affect anyone else.

If DH and DDs need to clean up their diets, that's a separate issue, but I don't think while you're away on holiday is the time to suddenly start healthy eating.

Come on now. You haven’t had to time to think about whether you’re happy in your marriage? You must realise how silly that sounds.

No marriage is 100% happy. A year ago I left a well paid job because I felt what I was doing was morally wrong; and I've spent the last year trying to find work and concentrate on surviving - so not it's not silly at all.

To be fair, very nearly overweight is healthy. They’re not overweight, therefore they are a healthy weight.

So what I need to do is: make sure I have tests to check for coeliac. Try and see how I can plan for food menus each week (I'm back to being a student in September and juggling it with self employed work) and try and impress upon my husband (who two years ago spent £000s on Mounjaro and lost 5 stone and gave up smoking only to put it back on and start smoking) that he does need to be more thoughtful! But maybe not while we are still on holiday.

I agree this is likely too. Then when there's lots left he can say oh dear, shame to waste it and stuff his chops. My dad used to do the same and drive my mum mad by adding "don't worry, I'll eat it for you" like he was doing her a favour!

Yes, but if they are nearly overweight then it makes sense to keep an eye on things so they don't tip over into overweight.

Yes testing for Coeliac disease is done via a blood test but it's important you are still eating gluten. You will need to speak to your GP about this (organising the blood test and reintroducing gluten before it)

YABU. Just because you can't eat something doesn't mean your family can't eat it. My mum has coeliac disease, she never stops people in the house from eating gluten. It sounds like your marriage has some issues, but this in itself isn't an issue.

Yes it can be @Notsurenotsurenotsure lots of people with Crohn’s can’t tolerate gluten (me included)

Yes, that’s literally what the OP said in the post PP quoted??

YABU by describing your TEEN daughters as “needing to watch their weight” whilst on holiday!

Poor girls.

If you’ve cut out gluten, any test for coeliac would be falsely negative now. Are you expecting biopsy results?
edited as got op and pp post mixed up.

They do a gut biopsy. Don't be tempted to cut out gluten before or you might get a false negative.

Your small intestine was ulcerated and inflamed but they didn’t give you any medication?! I’d be asking for a second opinion if I was you!! Also a colonoscopy that got all the way to your small intestine must have been pretty hideous… I’ve had 7 in my life so far and never had one that goes beyond the ileum. Was it the ileum that was ulcerated and inflamed? That is a common site for Crohn’s to hit and an area that is impacted for me.

Now I'm thinking you were a hit woman, trying to go straight, but with rival assassins on your tail...

But on the dietary note, he's on holiday and this is how he eats and how he got 4 stone overweight. You can't control what he eats, only manage your own diet and if you wanted specific things you needed to go get them or give him a list. The DDs are old enough to make their own choices too. Weight/food is tricky for most people in one way or another and it can be counter-productive to make a drama of it. If you want to leave your marriage, focus on that not on donuts.