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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

466 replies

Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

OP posts:
Pinkflamingo10 · 14/07/2026 14:05

There wouldn’t be a 3rd date for me

Frostynoman · 14/07/2026 14:05

Juvenile and lacking respect. Also feels slightly aggressive. It would put me off

LovesLabradors · 14/07/2026 14:07

Yeah that would put me right off - it shows a lack of respect, and sooner or later that lack of respect would be shown to you.

MsIceSandwich · 14/07/2026 14:07

You really shouldn't date toddlers!

HeyThereDelila · 14/07/2026 14:07

Definitely don’t see him again.

Duvetdayneeded · 14/07/2026 14:08

I wouldn’t be talking to him ever again

Darragon · 14/07/2026 14:09

Write "you're dumped" on a whoopee cushion. It's probably about his intellectual level.

Pointyleaf · 14/07/2026 14:10

If it were onto the grass in a beer garden...maybe it wouldn't be quite so awful, but onto a restaurant floor and expexting you to laugh with him at the person (and the fact that it was a woman is probably very relevant) who'd have to clear it up?. What a horrible man.

Shhhhitsmagic · 14/07/2026 14:10

That's one of the strangest dating stories I've ever heard! I wouldn't even reply to him, just block

LivelySquid · 14/07/2026 14:11

He's an embarrassment, would put me right off.

Edenmum2 · 14/07/2026 14:11

I mean he sounds deranged

TheIdlerReturns · 14/07/2026 14:12

Gross. Presumably the waitress had to clean it up. I think it's good that you brought it up with him again instead of making some other excuse not to see him. He doesn't seem to get the problem and that's a problem in itself.

Backedoffhackedoff · 14/07/2026 14:12

It sounds like one of those mad nervous behaviours that makes no sense 😂 I wouldn’t see him again and tell him he needs to know he needs to be in control a bit more lol

user946372 · 14/07/2026 14:13

Was he wearing a shirt and tie or just a huge red flag?! :-O

TFImBackIn · 14/07/2026 14:14

I would've blocked him before I even got home. What a complete idiot he is. And yes, that waitress had to clean it up - if it was a 15 stone 6'6" waiter you can be sure as hell he wouldn't have done it.

Glitterbiscuits · 14/07/2026 14:14

You can tell a lot about a person’s character by how they treat people who can do nothing for them.

AgnesX · 14/07/2026 14:15

He sounds like a right twat tbh. I couldn't be doing with someone quite that moronic. I mean, in what world is that a clever or funny thing to do.

BillieWiper · 14/07/2026 14:15

That sounds like someone in psychosis (unlikely) or a sociopath if he thinks that's normal?

WhatAMarvelousTune · 14/07/2026 14:16

What completely insane behaviour. YANBU at all. I would never see him again.

SquatBetty · 14/07/2026 14:16

What a fuckwit. It's a no from me.

CraftyCoralFinch · 14/07/2026 14:18

Block and thank your lucky stars you've seen this behaviour before wasting any more of your time on him! 😳

Alittlefrustrated · 14/07/2026 14:19

No 3rd date from me. 🏃

Shatteredallthetimelately · 14/07/2026 14:19

He didn't finish the drink though did he, he threw it on the floor without a thought for who it was that had to clean up his mess.

YANBU.

loobylou10 · 14/07/2026 14:21

Block block block

Backedoffhackedoff · 14/07/2026 14:21

BillieWiper · 14/07/2026 14:15

That sounds like someone in psychosis (unlikely) or a sociopath if he thinks that's normal?

This answer is almost as mental as the guy throwing his wine on the floor 🤣🤣🤣

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