AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

[Magnesiun]

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

Would feel the same way. If he’s that juvenile he can’t just leave his wine , why would you want another date .

He sounds abusive, ditch him before it's too late.

Four days and 450+ replies, zilch from OP, I think we can draw our own conclusions.

Probably on her fifth date by now and shagging him as we speak.

I was just thinking the same thing. I'd give him a wide berth.

Girl that’s a massive red flag. Asserting dominance over the wait staff by making a massive mess on purpose. Also gaslighting you into thinking it shouldn’t be a big deal. No. Run

There would be no third date if I was in your position. Stupid juvenile behaviour.

Never heard anything like this! Good grief.

No, definitely not overreacting. What a rude and inconsiderate twat. As if hospitality staff don’t have enough to deal with, without selfish idiots deliberately pouring drinks for them to clean up. Chuck this one back.

So who's the 1% who said YABU? HIM?? What an obnoxious ahole but at least showed his true colors right off. He prob has numerous 1st/2nd dates but never 3rds...and too dense to understand why

You've had a lucky escape from this abhorrent, boorish, ill-mannered 'man-child'.

Might be people who'd have chuckled along watching a woman clear up after him.

HE wasted wine & you're even considering seeing him again? Seriously though, that's def a red flag & quite passive aggressive. Passing it off as a joke too means he's capable of gaslighting you. Run fast.

Fuck No. get as far away as possible . Complete Bampot

That is not acceptable behaviour!

Did you dump him OP?