AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

[Magnesiun]

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

Sorry but I think you both come across as quite strange.

Him for tipping his wine on the floor.

You for asking if you're overreacting to be put off a man who does this.

Be grateful it happened early on. I wonder if his entire family do this. I bet they were fun on big birthday outings to the local Harvester. What do you think happens at Christmas 🎄? Crazy story.

He is a supremely selfish, entitled twat - no thought at all for the poor sod who would have to clear up after him. Run.

Good grief, I'd have got up and walked out the moment that happened.

He sounds like the most insufferable cunt imaginable.

Like @BauhausOfEliott said. Find yourself some standards, please.

This.

What an arsehole - the only positive is he did it on the second date and saved you wasting any more time on the absolute idiot. Even very, very young children know not to do something like that. Who knows what he's capable of doing in private if that's what he's prepared to do in public on a second date.

You'd be insane to carry on with this awful, insufferable, juvenile berk.

If he does that in a restaurant in front of other people, imagine what he'd do in the house if he didn't like something.

Asshole, block.

I don’t normally approve of ghosting but this man deserves an unexplained block. Juvenile, arrogant and deliberately creating a mess for a low paid worker to deal with.

When somebody shows you who they are….

Oh no, that would be it, he's shown you who he is. Really ugly trait, making people clean up after you for kicks or covering your own inadequacy. Ick.

What a knob. I wouldn’t see him again.

NEXT. Knob.

He makes a deliberate mess so a minimum wage young woman had to clean up after him, and he gets a kick from that. Prick.

He is not a good person.

I definitely would not see this clown again.
You will spend all your time.e apologising to people on his behalf.

He is a nasty fucker and expected you to join in on humiliating the serving staff.

He's a dick. And possibly testing your boundaries to see if you put up with things that make you feel uncomfortable. Ditch him.

I would have given him the Paddington Bear stare and asked: "Are you going to clear that up given you deliberately spilled it?" And then of course would have left without a backward glance, what a pig. Sorry, no, that's unfair... to pigs.

I'm surprised you're even considering on seeing him again tbh. Bin him.

You really need to ask?! What an absolute tosser. If you continue with this relationship you will deserve everything you will get. When someone shows you who they are then you'd better believe them.

How weird! And embarrassing, I thought you meant a outside bar and that was bad enough but inside? I've never ever seen that, and yeah it's really rude to the staff and would also give me the massive ick

Can you imagine the state of his home?

Who cleaned it up?

Amazing expression and I wholeheartedly agree.

Just be glad you are not living with him, and were expected to clean up at home! Really what dreadful behaviour and well embarrassing for you too.Is he over 18? Sounds like an emotionally retarded 15 year old! Dump Dump Dump all the way home!

I think you can tell a lot about a man by how he treats service staff (couldn't think of another term... workers?) anyway, like if he is polite to waiting staff, says thank you to the taxi, bus driver etc. Basic level of being decent and nice... it's the foundations of a good egg.
He is not a good egg.