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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

335 replies

Magnesiun · Today 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

OP posts:
Skippythemeh · Today 15:03

Did he at least get some napkins and clean it up?
My reaction would have been, “Are you going to clean that up?” and then the date would be over.

What an arrogant, selfish prick. Obviously you end it now. Is this really the sort of behaviour you want to be on the edge of worrying about all the time? And the way he treated the staff as well - pouring wine on the floor for them to clean? Nah.

MsGreying · Today 15:05

indoors?

I mean, I'd think it was a bit odd outside too, but indoors is just proper twatty.

FinallyHere · Today 15:06

Dodged a bullet there.

pigsDOfly · Today 15:06

Yeah, definitely no third date.

He's an odious little prick.

midJulytarget · Today 15:06

Reminds me of the sort of thing the Prince Andrew character in the Windsors would do. And even Fergie struggled to find him funny.

Horses7 · Today 15:06

He’s nuts and you can’t be desperate enough to go on another date with this very strange guy.

spiderlight · Today 15:07

What an absolutely vile, disrespectful thing to do. Please block him immediately and don't see him again - if he's like that in public, God only knows how he behaves in private.

Moveoverdarlin · Today 15:08

Fucking animal. A three year old would know that was wrong.

PeachySmile2 · Today 15:08

Yuck. If he does that on the first date, god knows what he’d do on the third. What a disgusting person

SallyD00lally · Today 15:09

Moveoverdarlin · Today 15:08

Fucking animal. A three year old would know that was wrong.

And a 3 year old would also know it's not unreasonable to be put off by it.

Such a strange thread.

I wonder if we'll see the OP again?

ForUmberFinch · Today 15:09

What a toad! Absolutely not unreasonable. The disrespect for the restaurant/staff would have been enough for me to walk out there and then

SwatTheTwit · Today 15:09

I feel like that was one of those moments where the reasonable reaction would have been to get up and walk away, what a dick.

Many moons ago (as a teen) I was out for lunch with my then bf and he grabbed the plate and put it on the floor for the local ducks. I never wished so hard the floor had swallowed me whole, I can still feel everyone’s eyes on us. Like you I just stayed there dumbfounded, but it was the first of many red flags.

Bigtrapeze · Today 15:11

OP, this is like littering and wasting wine in one fell swoop with a side of disrespect to waiting staff. No.

LondonLass2026 · Today 15:11

Horrible man with a "someone else will clean that up" mentality. And then the "you still hung up on that?" comment.

I'd never, ever see this fool again.

BettyJoanPerske · Today 15:11

That's very odd behaviour. There shouldn't be a third date.

diddl · Today 15:11

You don't seriously think that you're overreacting do you?

When he asked if you'd had a good time why didn't you just tell him no?

Twiglets1 · Today 15:12

This is not normal behaviour. Follow your instincts by cutting further contact.

Gengha · Today 15:12

Wtf? Who does that? Even my kids as toddlers wouldn’t have poured a drink they didn’t like onto the floor!

Obviously YANBU

purplecorkheart · Today 15:14

God what a truly awful person. At least he showed his true colours relatively early on. How disrespectful he treated the staff. Block this moron.

gotmyselfintoapickle · Today 15:14

Nope

sugarapplelane · Today 15:16

What a prick. It’s a huge no from me. This sort of behaviour is awful. He is inconsiderate, juvenile and thinks he can just do what he likes. Just imagine what your life would be like with this man! I’ve heard it all now.

AmusedMember · Today 15:17

Run. Don't look back!

HoldMyWine · Today 15:17

Huge red flag for me. So disrespectful to the waitress and staff that had to clean up after him.

Ihaveneedofwaternear · Today 15:17

Rude and immature. I'd not be seeing him again and I'd be telling him very clearly why not

MrsShawnHatosy · Today 15:19

Bloody hell. Please don’t see him again.