AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

[Magnesiun]

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

No words!

So disrespectful of the waiting staff and restaurant - I’d imagine he’s one of those men who click their fingers for attention

I can't believe you stayed I'd have got up and walked out

I wouldn't see an oddball like that again.

He is an utter twat. He waved a red flag in your face. See it and run.

This.

Was this inside the pub or outside? Either is inexcusable, but at least concrete outside wouldn't be damaged. What appalling manners. He would give me the ick

What a disrespectful twat

bin. utter tool

What a total knob end. I'd have died of embarrassment. In all my years I've never seen anyone do that in a restaurant. Maybe at a drunken student party or something but seriously.... He sounds weird as fuck OP. Run for the hills.

No that’s just a festering turd. You have more self respect surely than than this disguising fanny clamper.

Seems very weird-is it a joke from some show or TIkTok thing? Seems rude to staff, and risky for any people with disabilities who need to get by.

The OP said "sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine." So definitely inside.

Why on earth do you think you might be overreacting?

This is him on his best behavior.

I've never walked out on someone during a meal before, but I suspect if I was having dinner with someone who did that, it would be my first time.

I did have a surprisingly similar experience about 30 years ago. Man I was dating worked for some super big fancy consulting firm. I went to their end of year party which was hosted in a very fancy marquee that included a proper floor, with carpets. Height of excess at the time. One of the men at our table, who I vaguelly knew, poured a glass of wine on the floor and when challenged said, "they can afford it." I never saw him the same way again and did actively avoid him the rest of the evening. I also was not in the slightest bit surprised about 10 years ago when chatting with a mutual friend to discover he was in the middle of a divorce and had been ranting to the mutual friend (who was a man, also divorcing) about how his stbExW was trying to take the assets he had "worked hard for" even as he explained he couldn't possibly have the children more than a few days here and there because of his busy busy consulting work......

How one treats service staff is a good barometer to gauge whether someone is a decent human.

He failed the test.

I was a waitress in a number of high end establishments and Never witnessed such uncouth behaviour. Do not date such a guttersnipe again. My dog had better manners.

Ah yes. If your dinner companion tips half a glass of wine on the restaurant floor, you can be sure that the next thing they will do it seize their table knife and run helter skelter around the restaurant because all their fellow diners are jedi.

Were you indoors? That's really odd behaviour.

This genuinely really really odd behaviour.

I am trying to come up with reasons and failing.

He's one of those twats who feels important watching service staff clean up after him. Reading your OP I thought you might be about to say you were in a pub garden and he just tipped it in the flowerbed, but inside?!

I would go nuts if my 3 year old did that, let alone a grown man!

What a fucking knob.

He is a bad mannered oik with a broken sense of humour.

Anyone who treats waiting staff or service staff like this is helpfully showing their true colours. I could not get past that !

Do you really need to ask?
He sounds arrogant and disrespectful. No more dates with him.