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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

335 replies

Magnesiun · Today 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

OP posts:
MyCrushWithEyeliner · Today 15:20

At first I thought you were outdoors, but you were sat in the restaurant? That’s bonkers behaviour.

MrsVBS · Today 15:21

He sounds like an absolute knob. No consideration for embarrassing you or for the person who would have to clean it up. Run for the hills.

Tryingtobenormal124 · Today 15:22

Na chuck him back, accidents happen but to do what he did is just a huge red flag. It would be you next. Better luck next time

Baking07 · Today 15:23

Utter scum.
I would be absolutely mortified to be in such company.
Completely uncouth.

I'm trying to imagine what hole in the ground was he dragged up in?

Minasama · Today 15:26

That is extraordinarily strange behaviour.
A floor inside?
Who did he think was going to clean this up?
If it was onto soft ground like a pub garden then maybe understandable.
What sort of person was this - an arrogant toff, a chav, someone “unconventional” ? You need to tell us more!!

Beachtastic · Today 15:26

Blimey.

Next time he'll take a dump on the floor as a protest about the food.

Make sure there isn't a next time!

Piglet89 · Today 15:27

Jesus. They walk among us.

FlapperFlamingo · Today 15:28

Omg what a twat. I’d dump and run. No words - especially on his comment when you mentioned it later.

MrsShawnHatosy · Today 15:28

Minasama · Today 15:26

That is extraordinarily strange behaviour.
A floor inside?
Who did he think was going to clean this up?
If it was onto soft ground like a pub garden then maybe understandable.
What sort of person was this - an arrogant toff, a chav, someone “unconventional” ? You need to tell us more!!

It shows he does not respect customer facing staff, which is a total deal breaker for me.

BeautifulViolets · Today 15:28

Magnesiun · Today 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

Good grief you actually have to ask if you’re overreacting? No you’re not! What a pig he is!

TheThirteenthFairy · Today 15:28

Kimmers4334 · Today 14:45

I don’t really know why but him doing that makes me assume he is really selfish in bed. What an ape

It makes me know for a fact that he'll pee on the seat and the floor and leave it there.

Gettoachiro · Today 15:31

What a complete and utter piece of crap.

Friendlygingercat · Today 15:34

You have to wonder about the 1% of people who presumably thought this was reasonable behaviour. Someone who lives in a cave perhaps?

pinkspeakers · Today 15:35

Absolutely unacceptable. What a tw*t.

NotBluebutCerulean · Today 15:36

What will he do next?
a) Clap his hands for serfs to come and clear up?
b) Throw wineglass into the fireplace and slap his boot with a whip?

Laura95167 · Today 15:37

My 4 Yr old LO wouldnt be allowed to do that

pinkspeakers · Today 15:37

I'm actually weirdly angry about this and I wasn't even there.

hitsdifferently · Today 15:38

Can I please hear from the 1% (9 people!) who think YABU?!

Maray1967 · Today 15:39

Good grief! I’d like to think I would have asked the staff to bring cleaning things and told him to get down on the floor and clean it up, but I might have been too stunned.

Northernlassie123 · Today 15:39

MsGreying · Today 15:05

indoors?

I mean, I'd think it was a bit odd outside too, but indoors is just proper twatty.

Yeah exactly it would put me off but outside isn’t as idiotic as inside

MrsShawnHatosy · Today 15:42

Northernlassie123 · Today 15:39

Yeah exactly it would put me off but outside isn’t as idiotic as inside

I mean, even if he’d emptied it into a nearby plant that would have been well weird, but on the floor!

Catwalking · Today 15:43

hitsdifferently · Today 15:38

Can I please hear from the 1% (9 people!) who think YABU?!

🤪😂 agree

Tho, as this is verging on unbelievably vile behaviour, i do slightly wonder what the hell he was trying to achieve??

TreeDudette · Today 15:44

Who the fuck pours things on restaurant floors for other people to clean up? There would be no date 3.

ItsmeMargo · Today 15:45

Samiloff · Today 14:24

He is a supremely selfish, entitled twat - no thought at all for the poor sod who would have to clear up after him. Run.

This was my first thought: doesn’t give a shit about the poor person on minimum wage that’s gonna have to clean up after him.

In a few years he’ll be throwing meals you’ve cooked on the floor ‘cos they’re not up to scratch.

performative and nasty.

What a dick.

loveawineloveacrisp · Today 15:46

Absolute twat. Not at all funny.