AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

[Magnesiun]

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

I wouldn't have even stayed to the end of the meal. What a monumental prick.

You can tell a lot about date from the way they treat wait staff. He thought it would be funny and impressive to treat someone with utter contempt. One day, that will be you.

If that’s how he behaves in a good mood on a 2nd date, imagine how he would be in a bad mood, some time down the road.

I don’t really know why but him doing that makes me assume he is really selfish in bed. What an ape

First post nails it for me!

Having worked in hospitality for many years, our working lives are often blighted by prats like this… they always think they’re “funny” or that it’s “ part of our job” to deal with this nonsense. Seriously, in what universe is this behaviour funny?

Thank God I’m retiring in a few weeks.

You can do soooo much better, OP!

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Came here to say this! Ive never met anyone whose disrespectful to wait staff whose otherwise a lovely person.

I’d have been so overwhelmed by the ick at that point I’d have just left there and then. Complete lack of respect for the waiting staff and other diners.

He sounds cretinous. Bin him off.

Imagine him meeting your mates 😫 and pulling hilarious shit like this. Oh god, I can't bear the embarrassment.

I'm amazed you have to ask OP

Just send him a link to this thread.

what a monumental man child.

That is awful behaviour. I would have walked out. Who ended up cleaning it up? Poor staff probably. Vile behaviour. Did he thrown a load of £50 notes on the table when he left & laugh like a toff too?!

Very strange behaviour. I would have quietly left there and then blocked his number and been mightily relieved I dodged that one.

YABU for asking. The man is clearly a dickhead.

I thought you were going to say he dumped it in a plant pot, which would be bad enough. But he deliberately spilled it on the floor?! He sounds fucking weird.

As if you have to ask if you are being unreasonable?

He showed a complete lack of respect, and it wasn't funny. Dump him!

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Chuck this one back in the pond OP

I can't believe you are even asking. He is an utter arsehole.

You have to ask? I'd have paid my share and left then as I'd have been so embarrassed.

Inside or outside restaurant?

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Would be an immediate hard no from me. It was stupid, because it could have caused someone to slip, and it was disrespectful, because he clearly didn't give a shit who would have to clean it up. Both of those would be enough for me to end it immediately.

If I'd have seen someone deliberately pour any sort of liquid onto the floor of a restaurant, I'd think they were a loon.
I would instantly ask for my portion of the bill up to that point,pay,and be out of there as fast as a rabbit out of a trap.

Well done for telling him the reason, he will obviously try to play it down. May teach him a lesson in the future that woman don’t like disrespectful immature show off’s.