To be upset with DD for this?

[dressdrama26]

Last year I lent my DD (19) a summer dress to go on holiday with her boyfriend. I’m going on holiday myself in a few weeks with DH and asked her for the dress back (assuming it was still in her wardrobe). She said “I’m not sure if I still have it, I think I sold it on Vinted”. I was perplexed, asked her why on earth she would do this? She said “well I just didn’t think you wanted it back”. In fairness, I hadn’t asked her for it back since last summer as I hadn’t needed it yet, but still, surely you don’t sell an item of clothing someone has lent you just because the person hasn’t asked for it back yet? Just seems crazy to assume the person doesn’t want it back and is happy for you to sell it? She’s normally a caring and lovely girl, so this has thrown me off a bit as it feels really disrespectful. She offered to replace it and has already ordered the replacement and paid for faster delivery so it arrives before my holiday, but I’m still just left a bit bewildered and disappointed. Am I overreacting to be upset here?

funny that isn’t it, that the person who created the post and who’s life it relates to, is the person most engaged and posting the most…? Imagine that? Being the most invested person in my own life. Genuine shocker.

I have come across in the tone I’ve been met with. When I feel posters have posted in good faith and are genuine, I’ve replied in the same tone (you’ll see multiple examples of this). And conversely, when I’ve received what feel to me like non genuine and at times unpleasant comments (including many insinuating that I’m a bad mother or at least one who is encouraging unpleasantness towards my own daughter), I have responded in the appropriate tone.

But do feel free to leave the thread if it’s not for you. I won’t be offended 😊

Pot meet kettle…

The irony - apparently I’m the unpleasant “bitchy” one, and yet there are posters (repeatedly) goading and implying I will lose my daughter - and over what? A post on MN where I’ve asked if my feelings are normal. In an otherwise close and strong mother daughter relationship. And yet people think it fitting and appropriate to casually throw around just about the most traumatic thing a mother can imagine - losing her child. Some people genuinely disgust me.

The best bit is she sold it because she thought you didn't want it....but did she give you the ££ she got from vinted,no she just pocketed it. I think your daughter is deceitful. And needs a lesson in morals!

What a batshit thread.🙄

OP, have a great day.
You have the patience of a saint responding to some of the posters here going on snd on snd on🙄

104 posts 😂😂😂😂😂

@Stationbike
Thank you. My personal favourite was being told to expect my daughter to go no contact with me when she leaves home… Deeply unpleasant and unnecessary to say the least.