To have made remarks about my friend’s dress

[ladieswholunch23]

Hi all. So, one of my friends is going to a wedding and she’s bought a dress which is…peculiar to say the least. So our group chat (roughly around 8 of us) we - obviously as to not hurt her feelings - we said we liked it as it had already been purchased.

However on our other group chat that she’s not on, we all gave our true thoughts that the dress is hideous and, at the very least, is not suitable for a wedding. Somehow my friend found out about this other group chat and the things we had been saying. Whilst obviously it wasn’t the intention to hurt her, she’s now saying we betrayed her and it has now caused a rift in the friend group. I love to death but she can be a real pain sometimes. AIBU?

I think your behaviour as a group have been pretty shitty. You all need to apologise to her for your slagging her off behind her back.
The dress isn't as awful as you were making it out. I'm in my early 50s, and if one of my (thinner than me!) pals said they were going to wear that to a wedding, I probably wouldn't bat an eyelid. I'm too fat, and have terrible legs, so I wouldn't wear it, but I don't think it's wildly inappropriate for a wedding.