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To have made remarks about my friend’s dress

362 replies

ladieswholunch23 · 06/07/2026 16:43

Hi all. So, one of my friends is going to a wedding and she’s bought a dress which is…peculiar to say the least. So our group chat (roughly around 8 of us) we - obviously as to not hurt her feelings - we said we liked it as it had already been purchased.

However on our other group chat that she’s not on, we all gave our true thoughts that the dress is hideous and, at the very least, is not suitable for a wedding. Somehow my friend found out about this other group chat and the things we had been saying. Whilst obviously it wasn’t the intention to hurt her, she’s now saying we betrayed her and it has now caused a rift in the friend group. I love to death but she can be a real pain sometimes. AIBU?

OP posts:
jdb9803 · Today 11:38

ladieswholunch23 · 06/07/2026 17:01

The group chat wasn’t set up about the dress it was there before

That's worse - you already have a group chat for the whole firend group except her - biching about her isn't new - you aren't a friend, none of you are

jdb9803 · Today 11:39

ClairDeLaLune · Today 00:49

Who betrayed the group OP? You have a snake in your midst. A snake in the midst of - well, a load of other snakes really. That was proper nasty of you all, your poor friend.

I disagree - I thingk the person who told her is the only decent person in the group - obviously disgusted as much as the rest of us of the behaviour of her 'friends'

ladieswholunch23 · Today 12:08

ZanyPoet · Today 10:32

Apologies if I have missed it in the thread

*ladieswholunch23 *could you PLEASE send us of photos of the dresses you and your friends intend to wear at that wedding and weddings in general? We need a laugh.

Bridget Jones's mother dressed as a curtain comes to mind, but I might be wrong, so please enlighten us

Here I am

To have made remarks about my friend’s dress
OP posts:
Horses7 · Today 12:31

So 97% think OP’s behaviour has been underhand/horrible/nasty etc and she still hasn’t taken responsibility for this very poor behaviour which has upset her ‘friend’ greatly.
Try harder OP - you should be ashamed of yourself and the other members of your WhatsApp group.
Who on earth would want any of you to be a friend?

ZanyPoet · Today 13:06

ladieswholunch23 · Today 12:08

Here I am

is that why you are so bitter about your friend? SHE could pull that outfit too, and you can't?

Brownwithnopezazz · Today 13:28

Noshadowsinthedarkness · Yesterday 19:52

I don’t doubt for a second you are full of self confidence.

Gosh, I’m sorry to mention this, on this thread … but…. You’re coming across as a bitch. I hope you aren’t bitchy about people you’ve never met in a private group chat… that would be an abomination. Very very different from being bitchy anonymously on a forum. Oh hold on…

Balloonhearts · Today 13:43

Brownwithnopezazz · Yesterday 17:32

I’m not sure you have friends, @Balloonhearts . It sounds as though you have some polite acquaintances who don’t feel safe enough to speak freely around you.

Or they matured beyond the age of 15, perhaps?

You realise that the people you are so gleefully slagging off others with are almost certainly 'speaking freely' about you as well?

Auroraloves · Today 13:44

ladieswholunch23 · 06/07/2026 16:43

Hi all. So, one of my friends is going to a wedding and she’s bought a dress which is…peculiar to say the least. So our group chat (roughly around 8 of us) we - obviously as to not hurt her feelings - we said we liked it as it had already been purchased.

However on our other group chat that she’s not on, we all gave our true thoughts that the dress is hideous and, at the very least, is not suitable for a wedding. Somehow my friend found out about this other group chat and the things we had been saying. Whilst obviously it wasn’t the intention to hurt her, she’s now saying we betrayed her and it has now caused a rift in the friend group. I love to death but she can be a real pain sometimes. AIBU?

Wow, that is awful. Your poor friend.

Lins77 · Today 14:28

I'm not at all convinced this story is real. But if by some chance it is, your friend should be well rid of you all.

Worst case scenario, it is real and you've posted this thread - complete with picture of dress - out of sheer troublemaking glee, in full awareness that she might see it.

Gooseling · Today 17:41

ladieswholunch23 · Today 12:08

Here I am

Fucking hideous 🤢🤢🤢

Whooops sorry OP, was meant to send that behind your back on the thread that you’re not included in.

Floralibra · Today 18:38

You didn’t make remarks though OP, you all had a gossip about her behind her back rather than be honest when she asked your opinion - you’d all rather her look an idiot then be honest. That may not have been your intention but it’s how she has taken it

ZenGarden89 · Today 20:49

I’m glad for your friend that she’s found out about the type of company she keeps. You all sound awful.

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