To have made remarks about my friend’s dress

[ladieswholunch23]

Hi all. So, one of my friends is going to a wedding and she’s bought a dress which is…peculiar to say the least. So our group chat (roughly around 8 of us) we - obviously as to not hurt her feelings - we said we liked it as it had already been purchased.

However on our other group chat that she’s not on, we all gave our true thoughts that the dress is hideous and, at the very least, is not suitable for a wedding. Somehow my friend found out about this other group chat and the things we had been saying. Whilst obviously it wasn’t the intention to hurt her, she’s now saying we betrayed her and it has now caused a rift in the friend group. I love to death but she can be a real pain sometimes. AIBU?

That's worse - you already have a group chat for the whole firend group except her - biching about her isn't new - you aren't a friend, none of you are

I disagree - I thingk the person who told her is the only decent person in the group - obviously disgusted as much as the rest of us of the behaviour of her 'friends'

Here I am

So 97% think OP’s behaviour has been underhand/horrible/nasty etc and she still hasn’t taken responsibility for this very poor behaviour which has upset her ‘friend’ greatly.
Try harder OP - you should be ashamed of yourself and the other members of your WhatsApp group.
Who on earth would want any of you to be a friend?

is that why you are so bitter about your friend? SHE could pull that outfit too, and you can't?

Gosh, I’m sorry to mention this, on this thread … but…. You’re coming across as a bitch. I hope you aren’t bitchy about people you’ve never met in a private group chat… that would be an abomination. Very very different from being bitchy anonymously on a forum. Oh hold on…

Or they matured beyond the age of 15, perhaps?

You realise that the people you are so gleefully slagging off others with are almost certainly 'speaking freely' about you as well?

Wow, that is awful. Your poor friend.

I'm not at all convinced this story is real. But if by some chance it is, your friend should be well rid of you all.

Worst case scenario, it is real and you've posted this thread - complete with picture of dress - out of sheer troublemaking glee, in full awareness that she might see it.

Fucking hideous 🤢🤢🤢

Whooops sorry OP, was meant to send that behind your back on the thread that you’re not included in.

You didn’t make remarks though OP, you all had a gossip about her behind her back rather than be honest when she asked your opinion - you’d all rather her look an idiot then be honest. That may not have been your intention but it’s how she has taken it

I’m glad for your friend that she’s found out about the type of company she keeps. You all sound awful.

Does she have the slim figure to wear it? If so it could look nice and alternative. Not everyone needs to look frumpy or even sensible in their late 40’s. She probably really likes it

I’m not going to be shitty like other comments but seriously have a word to yourself does it really matter what someone where’s…
I don’t think that probably how you judge people xx

So nasty and childish. Leaving her out is bad enough but chatting about her ? Awful

It was incredibly spiteful and two faced of you all.

I hope she finds friends she can trust.

I’m wondering if you the wrote / poster is actually the female who was laughed at and you’re wondering why someone would do this so written as if you were the horrible nasty friend
I don’t think someone who had her this ridiculous would post about their shit behaviour. Interesting- either way wear a bin bag next time and give people something to talk about 😂😂 xx

This your first thread OP?

With ‘friends’ like you, who needs enemies? It’s nasty that you have another group chat which doesn’t include her and it’s equally nasty of you all to be making those comments behind her back. I’m glad she found out what you lot are really like. I only hope she can see you for what you are and move on to better people.

I'm presuming 3% pressed the wrong key.

It was a horrible thing to do. Why have a group chat to say horrible things about her dress choice. Why did you even feel you had to comment on it?
It's cruel and nasty

Awful dress I agree but be a friend. Be honest not backstabbing :) you are in your late 40ties I thought you guys were in your early twenties

I’m intrigued why you would think that dress isn’t modest? It’s summer and everything is covered except for a bit of leg. Maybe it’s a generation thing? X

Well done op, nice first thread 😂 stop biting people, what are the chances this is real, come on.

Huge difference there despite your but but she did it to in group chat .... mn aren't her friends are they its a website, so well tried but huge difference huge mistake.