To have made remarks about my friend’s dress

[ladieswholunch23]

Hi all. So, one of my friends is going to a wedding and she’s bought a dress which is…peculiar to say the least. So our group chat (roughly around 8 of us) we - obviously as to not hurt her feelings - we said we liked it as it had already been purchased.

However on our other group chat that she’s not on, we all gave our true thoughts that the dress is hideous and, at the very least, is not suitable for a wedding. Somehow my friend found out about this other group chat and the things we had been saying. Whilst obviously it wasn’t the intention to hurt her, she’s now saying we betrayed her and it has now caused a rift in the friend group. I love to death but she can be a real pain sometimes. AIBU?

What a two faced lot you are she's better off without you

At least someone in your coven had the good grace to tell her.
high school finished years ago. Leave the mean girl behaviour back there.

But if that’s her style I don’t see that it’s inappropriate? I couldn’t pull it off and maybe she can’t either but live and let live I say, she hasn’t got her tits and arse out.

give her a massive massive apology. We all make mistakes - try and make it up to her x

You aren’t being unreasonable to have your opinion but you are being unreasonable to think your ‘friend’ would not be offended!! If I was her I would find myself some new friends as if your friendship was genuine then none of you should feel you would hurt her feelings. I have very few true friends but I know we could all say anything to one another and we wouldn’t be offended. You should have given your friend a true opinion as now other people may think the same and talk about her behind her back? But then ur little group has already done that 🤷🏼‍♀️

The cruelty - and that's what it is - in in the very existence of the 'inner circle' whatsapp where you discuss what has been said by people who don't know of it.

You must see that this makes you a cunt.

I actually think the dress is really nice, you on the other hand…
what a mean thing to do to someone you claim to care about.

This

Acts really mean.
Posts on AIBU.
Gets called out.
Tries to justify it. 🙄

You and the rest of the group sound very immature, a cheek to call yourself friends.

Just because you lot don’t like the dress doesn’t mean she shouldn’t wear it.

The friend group sound like friends that probably all talk behind each others backs.

Just be aware they will probably be talking about your outfit behind your back at the wedding.

It doesn’t matter - slagging her off with a group of your mutual ‘friends’ is horrible. This thread isn’t going your way is it. And justifying it to ‘us’ by posting a picture just makes be feel glad you’re not my ‘friend’.

I'm kind of surprised because I think this dress is both cute and wedding appropriate. Not sure what your problem is. All seems fairly horrible of you.

You’re a shit friend. Why do you care so much about her choice of dress, that you have to discuss it with a load of other nasty people.

I like the dress!

A friend once asked me about a dress. She wasn't familiar with UK etiquette and it was white. She already owned it. I just explained that it was a lovely dress but perhaps not suitable for a wedding as some people might compare her to the bride etc. I didn't find it difficult to say it. I didn't feel the need to be nasty behind her back. It can be done.

This is a gorgeous dress! Late forties you say... is your friend slim and stunning and you are all jealous??!

By late 40's you should be behaving as adults, not class bullies. If that's how you treat a "friend" then fuck knows how you speak about somebody you don't like. I hope she ditches the lot of you.

What a bunch of bitches. How absolutely childish and nasty. I hope she sacks you all off and makes some nice friends instead.

You and the others were bitches. Own it and apologise and stop being bitches.

I like this dress, and I would wear it, I'm an apple shape with good legs, the shoulders would balance out my waist, I'd wear with gold strappy sandals I'm 49.

Sure she said that, OP. Ffs.

Awful behaviour. And did it not occur to you how easily you'd be found out? As long as she isn't wearing a wedding dress, who cares what she wears?
I'm so glad my "friends" did this to me 15 years ago so I didn't waste any more time on them.

Bitchy to be honest

Your friend says you betrayed her, which you did, and now you have done it again on here.
Judas.

There was an identical thread some time ago - different picture of dress but otherwise the same....

I don’t doubt for a second you are full of self confidence.