“All the trimmings” - to find this quite vile?

[Penelopefly]

I’m away with my boyfriend at the weekend. In the course of messaging about our respective days, I’ve mentioned I am starting to pack. He said ‘remember some nice lingerie with all the trimmings’. I queried what trimmings meant - he clarified stockings and suspenders.

I feel like a piece of meat!

Good.
Waffling gets boring after a while.

Good. First rule of holes: when you're in one, stop digging.

That’s a shame, I enjoyed watching you get flustered

Swearing and talking down to people does not convince anyone that you didn't imply some women were less than others because they choose to see humour where others do not.

Sometimes on forums it's better to keep quiet and move on.

DP and I must be very different to many on here. We look for opportunities to do small things for each other that we know will bring a smile to the other's face. Almost every day one or both of us will do something for the other. We don't need to ask as we know each other well. The 'something' is more often than not a small thing. We have been together for 20 years and are both happy together. Everything we do is with the consent of the other.

Surely relationships are about making your partner happy, and them making you happy? It often seems like there is much angst in relationships here. A determination not to do something for the other, which just leads to them not doing something for you. It all seems self-defeating to me. Life is too short. Spend more time being kind.