“All the trimmings” - to find this quite vile?

[Penelopefly]

I’m away with my boyfriend at the weekend. In the course of messaging about our respective days, I’ve mentioned I am starting to pack. He said ‘remember some nice lingerie with all the trimmings’. I queried what trimmings meant - he clarified stockings and suspenders.

I feel like a piece of meat!

I'm hearing this in a Frankie Howerd innuendo voice

When I think 'sexy' I don't think 'Christmas dinner in a pub'.

😂I assumed this would be a post about food and hating the term “all the trimmings”. Turns out in this context I do hate the term.
What an unpleasant turn of phrase

Tell him you will if he will.

I’m another one who thought this would be about roast dinner! How old is he? Stockings and suspenders are a bit…retro?

I would read this as unrealistic and misogynistic expectations of women as a result of porn use.

It'd give me the ick

The roast dinner references were what first came to mind too. Yuk

Probably against the grain… but it wouldn’t bother me. Because when I go away with my husband I do tend to pack nicer stuff and make more of an effort. But I do feel it’s reciprocated. He makes an effort for me to (in different ways) so I would say it depends on the relationship!

edited to say - but my husband wouldn’t have called it trimmings or ask for it.

God my first reaction was vom. My second was he got that from porn and the third was does know the difference between a romantic getaway and hiring a sex worker? This is a dumping offence!

ick activated and I’d purposefully turn up in a floor length Victorian nightie

I really don't like that phrase applied to roast dinners, never mind choice of underwear 🤮

I pressed “you are being unreasonable” by mistake. You are definitely not!!! Yuck!

Really? As in women don’t wear stockings or garter belts anymore? They still must as they still sell them.

It's a bit grim but if you do dress in nice lingerie and stockings, he's probably just using the wrong phrase. I would put it out of your mind and get packing your outfits (not the Furries)

I can't see the problem. Quite a few men like lingerie. I can think of worse sexual kicks to be honest.

If he is a new boyfriend, this is his way of letting you know. If it's not your thing, tell him.

many say their man reciprocates in other ways…but do they? Explain how men ever demean themselves with porn props? Or is it buying things?

Me too .
Incidentslly I had a sort of sillmeer white kaftan once I wore as a night dress from a great shop in portabello and my bf at the time absolutly loved it

*he said it looked victorian

Is he middle aged?

Is he very old? I can’t imagine someone middle aged or younger thinking stockings and suspenders are something a woman would want to wear. It seems terribly 1970s.

That’s so icky OP. I’d ask him if he’s bringing a fishnet stocking for his ballsack? Grim.

Wow. I only got cotton underwear to avoid fungus i would cancel if someone told me to bring trimmings. Ffs. If he's in love seeing you naked should be more than enough or is he porn damaged ?

Not only did I immediately think of Christmas dinner but my next thought was "does that mean he's bringing the giblets?".

Agree he sounds either older- or possibly very young? In any event if you haven't ever expressed an interest in getting trussed up like one of the ladies from Razzle wearing retro undergarments, I'd nip this in the bud sharpish, because that is a one-way ticket to Icksville.

When the men start wearing itchy plastic pointless shit that cuts them in half, fine.

Until that point, if he's wearing a comfortable pair of boxers, I'm wearing a comfy pair of cotton pants and a supportive bra. That's as good as it gets.

Tell him to get his butt plug because you're bringing the strap on.