“All the trimmings” - to find this quite vile?

[Penelopefly]

I’m away with my boyfriend at the weekend. In the course of messaging about our respective days, I’ve mentioned I am starting to pack. He said ‘remember some nice lingerie with all the trimmings’. I queried what trimmings meant - he clarified stockings and suspenders.

I feel like a piece of meat!

Nice

Ditch

He sounds like a keeper... if you don't like it I hope you've told him.

My ex used to say: "Can't wait to see you and looking forward to being as close as two people can be." It was romantic, it was sweet and both knew what it meant (!) but he never asked me what I would be wearing. Yuck.

He seems to have mistaken you for a prostitute. Nice.

is dressing up something you’ve previously done or talked about? If not this isn’t really ok.

I'm sure there are women who will be happy with that, but it's not for me. I'd feel like some kind of dress up doll. Fwiw, when I was young I tried this, as you do when you're exploring and finding out what you like. It was unpleasant.

I dare you to pack Yorkshire puddings, roast potatoes and parsnips. Those are trimmings in my book!

You must be so excited for your weekend away OP <sarcasm>

Having read the title, I genuinely thought this meant a full roast dinner.

Confused as to the trimmings part, have never heard it called this?! I am older though

He's just hoping for an exciting weekend with you. I wouldn't have a problem with this comment.

I mean, it’s a bit Sunday Roast 😂
if you like dressing up in nice undies for him but don’t like that particular phrase, tell him so.
if you don’t like dressing up for him, tell him so. I don’t think it’s the phrase that makes it inherently objectionable.
Now I’m craving Yorkshire puds…

Yuck. He doesn’t need to be telling you to pack lingerie in the first place, but the second part is grim. Most women don’t even own “stockings and suspenders.” It’s such an archaic type of undergarment. Is he older?

Oh Christ. Stockings and suspenders? Is this the bloody 80s? Do people really wear those things these days?

I do wear lingerie for my partner sometimes but he never asks and he wouldn't put pressure on me. I would feel ridiculous in stockings.

I'd be going off the idea of going away with him at all.

YANBU for not wanting to wear it but YABU for assuming no other women will. It seems you aren’t sexually compatible and that’s fine, you can find a man into vanilla sex and he can find someone kinky!

I thought this was going to be about pigs in blankets and stuffing balls……

What does he plan to pack to gussy himself up in for your viewing pleasure?

Excellent response!

I also thought this was going to be about a roast dinner.

Stockings and suspenders? Is he Benny Hill?

Dissapointed this thread isn't about potatoes.

Text him to ask if he's had his crack sack and back done yet.

Ask him if he needs to gild a lily.

Tell him to don’t forget his trimmings!

Grim.

‘ All the trimmings ‘

I’d assume he was referring to Christmas and would turn up with stuffing balls, cranberry sauce and a lovely bread sauce!