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Haven't seen DH in clothes since Monday

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Whereareyourclothes · 28/06/2026 18:52

My husband doesn't like the heat which means that for every day this week during the heatwave, we made an agreement that I'll been the one doing errands, nipping to the shops, and doing both morning and afternoon school runs. In return, he will ensure chores are done and cook dinner.

He works from home so therefore has had no need to leave the house.

Except, he's spent nearly a week walking around in just a pair of pants. No other clothing. He at least changes those pants daily (and sometimes twice a day), but I have not seen a t shirt on him all week nor a pair of shorts. I can't remember the last time he wore a pair of trousers.

I get that it's hot but i'm sick of the sight of his bare chest and legs. He is also bald so he looks like a giant newborn wearing a nappy.

He has somehow managed to do every work Teams call this week with the camera off.

We've also had quite a few deliveries this weekend, largely his, which I've had to run and open because he runs and hides from the window (while giggling) in case they clock he's only wearing pants.

I've asked him to put clothes on but it's fallen on deaf ears.

It's only 23 degrees today, AIBU to insist he puts some clothes on?

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chirrupybird · 30/06/2026 15:49

Get him some shorts pants as a compromise. If you have to put up with it he should man up and open the door, I expect the delivery people have seen it all before.

Autumngirl5 · 30/06/2026 15:50

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 15:46

Let’s hope so.

Definitely so. Neither of us are super models!
Even if we were I wound not want to see him wearing just his pants everyday.

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 15:53

Ok. Well maybe don’t put it to the test.

MagicalBagPuss · 30/06/2026 16:34

I remember that many years ago a delivery man said "a delightful sight" when I opened the door. I think that my buttons must have come undone or were never done up in the first place. I guess that it's different for a woman.
I would definitely NOT like the sight of my husband putting the bins out in nothing but pants - his dangly bits hang too low even for boxers!

Harry12345 · 30/06/2026 18:12

Stelladid · 30/06/2026 14:57

Can you explain why it would annoy you? Is it rational? Does it really matter? Is it really so bad? You are responsible for your own feelings about wanting to impose your ‘standards’ on others.

Probably because I was brought up in a house where that wasn’t the norm, my mum and dad didn’t do it and I didn’t walk about in pants in front of them either

Stelladid · 30/06/2026 19:01

Harry12345 · 30/06/2026 18:12

Probably because I was brought up in a house where that wasn’t the norm, my mum and dad didn’t do it and I didn’t walk about in pants in front of them either

I was also raised in a family like that, but your reply doesn’t answer my questions. Have a think about it. It sounds like because it was something you were raised not to do, you are assuming that it’s wrong. That isn’t necessarily the case.

Harry12345 · 01/07/2026 01:07

Stelladid · 30/06/2026 19:01

I was also raised in a family like that, but your reply doesn’t answer my questions. Have a think about it. It sounds like because it was something you were raised not to do, you are assuming that it’s wrong. That isn’t necessarily the case.

yeah I would find it strange wether it’s wrong or not, my kids wouldn’t appreciate me or their dad walking about in pants for a week and I’d appreciate them not doing it either. I feel like it’s bad manners, my boy cousins used to stay when younger and walked about in their pants and it made me uncomfortable. Obviously my partner and son come down in underwear in their pants morning or after a shower and I don’t care but a full week would bother me

Stelladid · 01/07/2026 01:16

Harry12345 · 01/07/2026 01:07

yeah I would find it strange wether it’s wrong or not, my kids wouldn’t appreciate me or their dad walking about in pants for a week and I’d appreciate them not doing it either. I feel like it’s bad manners, my boy cousins used to stay when younger and walked about in their pants and it made me uncomfortable. Obviously my partner and son come down in underwear in their pants morning or after a shower and I don’t care but a full week would bother me

I get that. I wouldn’t have walked around scantily clad when my kids were still at home. Now though, it’s just my husband and me.

anomymetoo · 01/07/2026 01:50

Apologies if already mentioned, I haven't read the whole thread.
Is his name Martin? 😂

lightreflectingonwater · 01/07/2026 07:26

anomymetoo · 01/07/2026 01:50

Apologies if already mentioned, I haven't read the whole thread.
Is his name Martin? 😂

Grin
Ladygardenerinderby · 01/07/2026 08:38

love the “nappy” bit I’m chuckling here

whatever rocks your boat in your own home I say

Floogal · 02/07/2026 14:15

Whereareyourclothes · 28/06/2026 19:32

I think shorts are fine. But these are very much pants. They cannot be disguised as shorts in any way!

Do you mean briefs? I prefer them on guys, boxers are so dull. DH likes me wearing knickers around the house and I like seeing him in his briefs 🩲 🩲 🩲

DarkchocolateAndtea · 03/07/2026 16:33

Floogal · 02/07/2026 14:15

Do you mean briefs? I prefer them on guys, boxers are so dull. DH likes me wearing knickers around the house and I like seeing him in his briefs 🩲 🩲 🩲

Noooo, hope at least they're not Y fronts!!! Dh calls them budgie smugglers! Briefs are so wrong for adult men IMHO! Each to their own 😂

Miyagi99 · 04/07/2026 20:00

I’ve been wfh naked all week apart from for meetings. Also I’d love it if my partner was naked a bit more, hair or no hair!

Lordemily50 · 04/07/2026 20:10

I think you’ve just realised you don’t fancy your husband anymore!

ChristineKo · 04/07/2026 22:52

"He is also bald so he looks like a giant newborn wearing a nappy." I'm sorry but I laughed out loud! Great description. I wouldn't really care though as long as he's not going outside

MNersSufferFromContextomy · 05/07/2026 07:12

You could get him a wig so he doesn’t look like a adult size newborn!

Grendel7 · 05/07/2026 21:02

Whereareyourclothes · 28/06/2026 18:52

My husband doesn't like the heat which means that for every day this week during the heatwave, we made an agreement that I'll been the one doing errands, nipping to the shops, and doing both morning and afternoon school runs. In return, he will ensure chores are done and cook dinner.

He works from home so therefore has had no need to leave the house.

Except, he's spent nearly a week walking around in just a pair of pants. No other clothing. He at least changes those pants daily (and sometimes twice a day), but I have not seen a t shirt on him all week nor a pair of shorts. I can't remember the last time he wore a pair of trousers.

I get that it's hot but i'm sick of the sight of his bare chest and legs. He is also bald so he looks like a giant newborn wearing a nappy.

He has somehow managed to do every work Teams call this week with the camera off.

We've also had quite a few deliveries this weekend, largely his, which I've had to run and open because he runs and hides from the window (while giggling) in case they clock he's only wearing pants.

I've asked him to put clothes on but it's fallen on deaf ears.

It's only 23 degrees today, AIBU to insist he puts some clothes on?

Sorry,don't see the problem? He "works from home" otherwise known as chores and cooking? He gets hot,leave him alone he's fine.

Grendel7 · 05/07/2026 21:04

over50andfab · 28/06/2026 18:59

YABU for agreeing that you do all the running around while he stays cool.
If he’s doing all the chores suggest he fry something on the hob - hot fat should ensure he puts something on, otherwise suggest you strip off too.

Since when was working from home cooking and chores?

KeepPumping · 05/07/2026 22:15

MNersSufferFromContextomy · 05/07/2026 07:12

You could get him a wig so he doesn’t look like a adult size newborn!

Or start calling him Starman.

Xiaoxiong · 05/07/2026 22:28

@anomymetoo i was just about to ask whether he likes a lovely bit of squirrel!!

anomymetoo · 06/07/2026 04:16

Xiaoxiong · 05/07/2026 22:28

@anomymetoo i was just about to ask whether he likes a lovely bit of squirrel!!

😂

KevinsSignatureShortdeads · 06/07/2026 09:39

Another heatwave incoming too 👀😂

Floogal · 06/07/2026 17:00

DarkchocolateAndtea · 03/07/2026 16:33

Noooo, hope at least they're not Y fronts!!! Dh calls them budgie smugglers! Briefs are so wrong for adult men IMHO! Each to their own 😂

No, not y fronts. Sort of like these

Haven't seen DH in clothes since Monday
smithsgj · 07/07/2026 22:57

Cece92 · 28/06/2026 19:07

My other half is like this the minute the weather heats up he can’t bare it. His daughter and my daughter are like oh here he goes but he is a long haul lorry driver so he basically sleeps in a green house all week and soon as he’s parked up T-shirts off 🙈 their lucky her wears his shorts cause when we don’t have kids there he wears nothing. I don’t even bat an eyelid it’s his house, and if he’s comfortable then that’s then main thing. I’ve been in shorts and a bikini top all week. X

You mean he does bare it

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