Help end medical misogyny. Sign our petition.

Help end medical misogyny.
Sign our petition.

Sign the petition

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Haven't seen DH in clothes since Monday

140 replies

Whereareyourclothes · Yesterday 18:52

My husband doesn't like the heat which means that for every day this week during the heatwave, we made an agreement that I'll been the one doing errands, nipping to the shops, and doing both morning and afternoon school runs. In return, he will ensure chores are done and cook dinner.

He works from home so therefore has had no need to leave the house.

Except, he's spent nearly a week walking around in just a pair of pants. No other clothing. He at least changes those pants daily (and sometimes twice a day), but I have not seen a t shirt on him all week nor a pair of shorts. I can't remember the last time he wore a pair of trousers.

I get that it's hot but i'm sick of the sight of his bare chest and legs. He is also bald so he looks like a giant newborn wearing a nappy.

He has somehow managed to do every work Teams call this week with the camera off.

We've also had quite a few deliveries this weekend, largely his, which I've had to run and open because he runs and hides from the window (while giggling) in case they clock he's only wearing pants.

I've asked him to put clothes on but it's fallen on deaf ears.

It's only 23 degrees today, AIBU to insist he puts some clothes on?

OP posts:
TheChosenTwo · Yesterday 19:28

Dh has spent the last week in just shorts when he’s been at home. Similar to pants really.
I don’t care although he does all the cooking anyway and will open the door to deliveries etc in his shorts.
He obviously wouldn’t be bare chested outside of the house (the beach/pool being the exception of course) but in his own home he can wear whatever he wants.
He’s not a fan of the heat in the same way I am but we haven’t had to negotiate me doing all of the outside jobs because of it.

Whereareyourclothes · Yesterday 19:31

Burgundyleaf · Yesterday 18:57

I think you should count yourself lucky my DH puts the bins out in nothing but his pants! Even when it’s not that hot! He’s got a job which means he has to wear industrial thick PPE for most of the day so when he can be liberated he makes the most of it (I’m sure I’ll be savaged on here and DH is completely unreasonable)

Haha, actually on Tuesday evening (night before bin day) I dared him to wheel the bin out, which was in our back garden. He got as far as the gate and had to run back like a naked squirrel because of people about to walk past our drive! That was funny to be fair, but here we are 5 days later, still sans-shorts!

OP posts:
Whereareyourclothes · Yesterday 19:32

TheChosenTwo · Yesterday 19:28

Dh has spent the last week in just shorts when he’s been at home. Similar to pants really.
I don’t care although he does all the cooking anyway and will open the door to deliveries etc in his shorts.
He obviously wouldn’t be bare chested outside of the house (the beach/pool being the exception of course) but in his own home he can wear whatever he wants.
He’s not a fan of the heat in the same way I am but we haven’t had to negotiate me doing all of the outside jobs because of it.

I think shorts are fine. But these are very much pants. They cannot be disguised as shorts in any way!

OP posts:
DirtyGertiefromno30 · Yesterday 19:35

We have all let it hang out this week, fat belly hanging & hairy legs and armpits on show , we were just glad to be able to breathe tbh 🤣

Whereareyourclothes · Yesterday 19:36

Arlanymor · Yesterday 19:04

Did he keep to his side of the deal and cook dinner in his pants too (something on the hob?!) I think the making a deal bit is irrelevant if you were both happy to make that pact and have both upheld your ends of it.

One of the greatest joys in life is wandering around your own home in your pants. That said, he can put on a tee for Teams and not turn off his camera and he can have a dressing grown by the door to take in the deliveries.

Otherwise I say that pants in this heat are completely fine - we all like to be comfortable after all.

Yes to be fair he did stick to the arrangement and many a meal got cooked in a very hot kitchen. He has definitely got the long end of the straw, I nearly got heat stroke on Friday's school run, it was that hot

OP posts:
calltheyep · Yesterday 19:36

I’m more concerned at your apparent disgust at his chest and legs. I love seeing my husband in just pants!

Citadelica · Yesterday 19:36

That has made me laugh 🤣.

At least he's wearing pants. There's another thread asking what people are wearing in the heat and someone has answered that both her and her DH have remained naked throughout.

Whether it's true or not who knows but you kind of hope it is.

Whereareyourclothes · Yesterday 19:37

TinyTempest · Yesterday 19:08

I feel like I read this exact same thread during the last heatwave the other month.

We were abroad during last month's heatwave so can confirm it wasn't me!

OP posts:
VikingNorthUtsire · Yesterday 19:37

Is he called Martin?

Haven't seen DH in clothes since Monday
bagpuss90 · Yesterday 19:38

The newborn line made me lol

MandyMotherOfBrian · Yesterday 19:39

Is he bloody boiling?

Haven't seen DH in clothes since Monday
darksideofthetoon · Yesterday 19:44

At least he’s changing his sweaty kecks twice per day. I understand why some hot countries use bidets. This hot weather isn’t the best for arse cracks.

RustyShackIeford · Yesterday 19:45

I’m laughing so hard at the giant baby line. Anyone else picturing George Costanza?

Haven't seen DH in clothes since Monday
ScrambledEggs12 · Yesterday 19:47

My dad was the same, although if it was early morning he wouldn't have the underpants on. Only time he would is if I had friends sleeping over and that was only because I asked!

Msgiggles30 · Yesterday 19:48

How old are the kids? I'd be mortified if my dad was just in pants for a week 😅😅

Jk987 · Yesterday 19:49

What about Teams calls? He sits bare chested in front of his colleagues?

LoafofSellotape · Yesterday 19:50

I reckon the majority of people this week in the red zone have been doing exactly the same!

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · Yesterday 20:01

@Whereareyourclothes

I read the title and all I could hear in my head was "Put a shirt on, Martin!" In the voice of Jackie Goodman from friday night dinner

RiP Paul Ritter... you were hilarious

Edit @MandyMotherOfBrian yesssssssssss

Nofeckingway · Yesterday 20:01

I have been mostly wearing big pants and a scrunchie. Nothing else. Definitely can relate to big baby comment as I caught sight of myself in the mirror . All I needed was a bib.

Tontostitis · Yesterday 20:04

I've had a variety of mismatched bikinis parts and my husband's has had just boxers on since Monday. We've both really enjoyed it and had loads of sex. Win win in my book but I fancy the pants off him you sound like you don't really like yours.

grumpygrape · Yesterday 20:06

Whereareyourclothes · Yesterday 19:32

I think shorts are fine. But these are very much pants. They cannot be disguised as shorts in any way!

Oh, get a grip, OP. Just jump on him all the time telling him he's making you randy. Win,win, either way. 🤗

chocoluv · Yesterday 20:10

Him not wearing clothes wouldn’t bother me at all.

I wear whatever I feel comfortable in at home.

But I would be annoyed that he’s not doing any errands out of the home.

Loulou4022 · Yesterday 20:27

calltheyep · Yesterday 19:36

I’m more concerned at your apparent disgust at his chest and legs. I love seeing my husband in just pants!

I came to say the same thing!

Whereareyourclothes · Yesterday 20:31

Tontostitis · Yesterday 20:04

I've had a variety of mismatched bikinis parts and my husband's has had just boxers on since Monday. We've both really enjoyed it and had loads of sex. Win win in my book but I fancy the pants off him you sound like you don't really like yours.

Sweaty sex in a heatwave , genuinely couldn't think of anything worse! But i'm glad you've enjoyed it

OP posts:
Lexy2345 · Yesterday 20:48

Tell him to wear shorts for goodness sake, and behave like an adult when someone is at the door.