Haven't seen DH in clothes since Monday

[Whereareyourclothes]

My husband doesn't like the heat which means that for every day this week during the heatwave, we made an agreement that I'll been the one doing errands, nipping to the shops, and doing both morning and afternoon school runs. In return, he will ensure chores are done and cook dinner.

He works from home so therefore has had no need to leave the house.

Except, he's spent nearly a week walking around in just a pair of pants. No other clothing. He at least changes those pants daily (and sometimes twice a day), but I have not seen a t shirt on him all week nor a pair of shorts. I can't remember the last time he wore a pair of trousers.

I get that it's hot but i'm sick of the sight of his bare chest and legs. He is also bald so he looks like a giant newborn wearing a nappy.

He has somehow managed to do every work Teams call this week with the camera off.

We've also had quite a few deliveries this weekend, largely his, which I've had to run and open because he runs and hides from the window (while giggling) in case they clock he's only wearing pants.

I've asked him to put clothes on but it's fallen on deaf ears.

It's only 23 degrees today, AIBU to insist he puts some clothes on?

I bet it would be deeply unsettling to know the number of people who have popped a quick top on while sat there in their undies on teams calls!

If he's not going outside the house it's reasonable enough. I sometimes walk about topless in just pants if I'm really hot and indoors. Or just a bikini/bralet.

It's a good sign he changed his undies twice a day, and presumably showers daily.

So as long as he's not sweating profusely onto the soft furnishings I think leave him to it.

Or make him go out so he has to put clothes on! 🤣

Stop answering the door for his parcels, thats not your problem; he needs to decide if he wants to put some shorts on, or have the parcels go back!

I’m a woman and some days I’ve just had my knickers on fur the most of the day. It’s been hot. That said I did get dressed to go to the shops etc. I’d tell him to get a pair of shorts or a robe and to answer the door himself.

Yes that is a funny image, child of giants. LOL

Yes but that doesn’t mean that all the deliveries etc should fall to his wife to sort out. What would he do if he lived alone?! Or with a flatmate 🤣

THIS!!

So is it acceptable to only wear pants as a woman?

I wouldn't say I'm a naturist. I usually throw on some light PJs if I'm walking around the house but if I'm upstairs working or reading I'm either nude or maybe just wearing pants. She's never expressed an opinion. We all wear what we want, within reason.

He sounds happy 🤣

Er, yes. I’m doing it now. I am sure many others are too. I am shocked at how uptight some people on this thread are! And how little they seem to fancy their own husbands.

Yes, he could wear light shorts and answer the door in them, no one is going to care in this heat?

Come on though, women aren't visual the way men are, and we are also not programmed to be overcome with lust at the sight of a naked male like they are with us. We're programmed to be turned on by the traits that make them likely to stick around and raise our cave-babies. They're programmed to fire up at the sight of a naked woman because their erection is necessary to propagate the species. Men and woman are not the same.

And the VAST majority of us look our best with some light draping on, let's be honest.

If he's not doing his fair share then that would annoy me, so i understand why you'd be annoyed.The way you talk about how he looks though is tbh quite nasty and if it was the other way around then women on here would have plenty to say. Are you even attracted to your husband? Shouldnt we want to see our spouses as they naturally are? My husband would love me to walk around in knickers only.

It was actually really nasty what OP put. The double standards on mumsnet strike again. We all know if a man had commented something like that about his wife (she looks like a big baby, she has rolls), women on here would be outraged.

You wear your knickers on fur? Why would you do that in a heatwave? 🤣🤣🤣 Sounds massively cosy for the winter, though - I might try it!

Yes, and also to prevent you from sweating all over the soft furnishings.

Exactly this

Look, let's be real here. Love is more than skin-deep, but lust is not. Unless you have the perfect body, don't be permanently naked or almost-naked at home if you want your partner to lust after you. It doesn't look wild and free and confident, it looks slobby and depression-adjacent when it goes on and on. The bare truth is - pun intended - that almost all of us look best with some light, artful draping. Unless you're a gym nut or ballet dancer.

I live alone and I gleefully scamper about in my knickers. But I'm alone!

She's not choosing to be intolerant; she can't help that him being permanently in his tighty-whiteys is a turn-off for her.

You have such a basic concept of female desire, I feel a bit sorry for you. Have you never objectified a man? Desired his body? Felt like you’d do anything to sleep with him? Gone crazy over his arms/chest/eyes/bum, etc? Female desire is so much more complex than your conception of it, which is rooted in cod evolutionary psychology.

I’m not a fan of tightly-whiteys either, but she didn’t say that was what he was wearing. There are some very flattering men’s underwear around these days

If my husband was walking around in his underwear for a week, I'd be pregnant again before long!

Me too - I’m still smiling when I picture a huge bald baby in a nappy! Yeah he needs to put shorts and T-shirt on! Switch his camera on when he’s not looking. 😃

The giant baby comment had me howling

Solidarity @Whereareyourclothes from another person enduring a husband who has been largely naked all week <grits teeth>

His solution to the delivery problem is to have pairs of trousers dropped all over the house ready to throw on at a moments notice. Then dropped back onto the floor afterwards like a toddler in a rush for the potty