AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding?

[princesspicker]

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding. His gf saw my dress and said she thought it was inappropriate because she claims it’s white. The reality is that it’s not white, it has a red and green floral pattern. I don’t really have time to find a new dress but my brother keeps asking me if I’ve found something new, saying he and his gf are worried other guests will talk about me behind my back if I show up wearing something white (it’s not white!!). I think it’s so rude that they’re trying to police what I wear, especially when they know I had to call off my wedding last year and he’s my brother so I should get to wear something special to his wedding!

I’ve voted YABU. If you weren’t, you would’ve posted a photo of the dress.

You can wear something special but no, it shouldn’t be white.

Your wedding being cancelled is nothing to do with this.

You need to stop making this about you and find another dress.

I suspect if the tables were turned you’d have a lot to say about it.

Without a photo it’s impossible to tell who is unreasonable

When did it become a thing for bride’s to start dictating what a guest could wear ? Normal etiquette is not to wear all white , especially if it’s a long dress, or all black. That’s it. I would not have dreamed of telling people what they could or could not wear to my wedding, I trusted that nobody would pitch up in a white ballgown and veil, or full funereal darkness, but actually that might have been quite entertaining.
My mil wore a cream suit, totally fine. Several people wore pale floral dresses, normal for weddings !
Your dress is not white, it’s a coloured print, it’s fine. However I agree that as the bride sounds like a tyrant you might choose not to fall out.
Why did you show her your dress ? Were you worried or did she ask ?

Yabu when the bride has told you its inappropriate to not buy a new dress

Am I the only person who thinks the dont wear White thing is out of control? Years ago I went to a friend's wedding in a shift dress with massive red and pink flowers all over. My friend thought it was beautiful. These days I think I'd be lynched.

If its her wedding then you would be massively unreasonable to still wear it, no matter what it looks like!

This
its not your wedding, it’s not your special day.

It doesn’t matter what colour is it. The bride and groom don’t want you to wear it, so don’t wear it.

Precisely this. 🎯

Another bridezilla bites the dust. Honestly this is all ridiculous.

I remember the good old days when the bride didn't know what any guests were wearing, until they turned up; then she didn't notice or care.

You cancelling your wedding has nothing to do with wearing something special to THEIR wedding.

You have 3 WEEKS, not 3 days or hours so get another dress!

Post a pic or its clearly a reverse or not true.

If you could time travel 3 weeks forward, how do you think you’d be feeling right now, standing at your DB’s wedding wearing a dress that he and his bride asked you not to?

would you feel special?
would you feel a bit rebellious?
would you feel a bit regretful that you didn’t change your outfit as it’s such a simple thing for you to do that would avoid the risk of the couple being miffed at your stubbornness?

it may or may not be white. Or white with a pattern. But they have decided that they’d rather you didn’t wear it. Perhaps they’ve picked up on your determination to feel special on their wedding day.

Bridezilla alert. It’s not a white dress, no one will think you’re trying to upstage the bride, don’t give in to this utter nonsense.

I don’t think we’re going to see a photo of the dress.

You can still wear something special, but not this. If the couple getting married have seen it and said not to wear it, I just can’t imagine being so stubborn that I’d even consider still wearing it.

Intrigued at you referring to your ‘brother’s girlfriend’ and not ‘the bride’ 🤔
There is obviously beef here for you to refer to her so dismissively, and to be wanting to go against her preferences on her wedding day.

I’m sorry your wedding was called off though - that must have been awful 💐

I am tempted to do a dress code for my wedding ‘Wear that lovely outfit someone told you was too white for a wedding, even though it’s not white at all.’ People will look lovely and be happy.

I'm getting reverse vibes from this, the way the OP is written...just feels weird...but agree with others who say if the bride has commented that it's too white, then it's too white and you need to wear something else. 🤷‍♀️

YABU

what if it’s this?

This ^

Just wear it!

Yes this is what I was wondering!

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