AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding?

[princesspicker]

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding. His gf saw my dress and said she thought it was inappropriate because she claims it’s white. The reality is that it’s not white, it has a red and green floral pattern. I don’t really have time to find a new dress but my brother keeps asking me if I’ve found something new, saying he and his gf are worried other guests will talk about me behind my back if I show up wearing something white (it’s not white!!). I think it’s so rude that they’re trying to police what I wear, especially when they know I had to call off my wedding last year and he’s my brother so I should get to wear something special to his wedding!

How can we judge if yabu or not unless we see the actual dress ?

Yes this isn’t making sense.

Anyone whose wedding day is "spoiled" because someone wears a dress with a bit of white on it is not mature enough to be getting married!

This

Just post the dress already!!

Every week there are posts like this, is this too white, is that too white?

It’s so simple, just don’t wear white, there are a billion million other colours in the world and why would you want to wear white anyway? To a wedding that you will be at all day eating and drinking and dancing.

Feck sake it’s like the easiest thing on earth to not wear a white dress!

If the bride says no then it’s a definite no. You can get another dress or borrow one in a matter of hours.

JUST NOT A WHITE ONE.

Easy peasy lemon squeezy.

I'm sorry your wedding didn't happen. That must have been very hard.

The fact remains that this is another woman's special day. It means as much to her as yours did (and hopefully will again) to you. She's said she doesn't want you to wear the white, red and green dress. You should respect this.

Huh?
Has she seen your dress (as you said in the OP) or not (as you've stated here)?
Has your brother asked you not to wear it (as per your OP) or have they just generally said something to your mum about how it would be inappropriate to wear white (as per this post)?
And can we see a photo/link for your dress?

So how can the bride to be say it's too white if she hasn't seen the dress? Very odd

I'd send a picture of the dress to the bride saying I don't think it's too white but wanted to check in with her what she thought. I'd be guided by her answer. It's not worth hurting your relationship with your brother over one day.

Can't give you my opinion without a picture of the dress.

It’s sounds like the bride and the OP’s mom had a general conversation about people wearing white to the wedding (and that the bride thinks it is rude). And the OP’s mom told her. Not that it was said specifically about the OP’s dress. But OP has decided to take umbrage.

YABU not to post a link to the dress, or a photo of it…

You need to share a pic, we can’t judge otherwise

@princesspicker I’m confused. Your original post says gf saw the dress. Later you say they haven’t seen it. It would help if you post a picture for us.

Please read your op then your latest update, what one is correct? Has she seen the dress or not?

OP says the bride saw the dress. And now she hasn’t.

so which is it OP? I suspect a wind up thread tbh as everyone loves a good ‘is it too white?’ Thread! ( if you have to ask then the answer is yes)

So, bit confused but think this is sequence of events.

Bride and future mother in law have a conversation about the wedding. Bride says something along the lines of , it's important to me that people aren't wearing white as it's inappropriate.

Mother then tells sister ( the op) remember you can't wear white to a wedding.

Op then thinks this a specific comment about her dress, but her dress is not white.

So not sure why op jumped to they must be commenting on my dress when no one has seen it.

Or, has your mum seen it and she thinks it's too white?

Show the dress?

Just wear something else

She saw another dress at my parents house and told DM white at the wedding for a guest would be inappropriate. Mum told her she wouldn’t be wearing white (which she isn’t, so she didn’t lie) and just didn’t mention my dress to her so technically I’ve not been told anything but mum obviously let me know this had happened since we picked out the dress together and she knew it’s a bit similar to the dress at my parents house

Have YOU seen the dress?

Don't know why you're cancelled wedding is in anyway relevant. The fact you even think it is suggests you see the wedding as an opprtunity for you to shine despite what the actual bride has suggested.

Also think it's very strange (or very telling) you haven't simply posted a photo of the dress. If it's blatantly a floral print dress with a bit of white, she is clearly a bridezilla. It's the easiest and quite frankly only way people can actually answer you.

Yes - if bride hasn’t seen the dress this is the only way it could have happened really

so basically her mum has told the bride you have a white dress - hence the angst

but op hates the bride so…

Is it just me that would be going out and buying a cream wedding-esq dress?

She probably just wants to feel heard. I would send the message back that it is a floral dress of this style and will be paired with X colour accessories and accompaniments. Send a photo of the completed outfit if you want to keep her on side.

I inadvertently wore a dress nearly identical to the brides at my bosses wedding.... How was I meant to know she was going to wear a strapless purple dress?

That’s cruel!