AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding?

[princesspicker]

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding. His gf saw my dress and said she thought it was inappropriate because she claims it’s white. The reality is that it’s not white, it has a red and green floral pattern. I don’t really have time to find a new dress but my brother keeps asking me if I’ve found something new, saying he and his gf are worried other guests will talk about me behind my back if I show up wearing something white (it’s not white!!). I think it’s so rude that they’re trying to police what I wear, especially when they know I had to call off my wedding last year and he’s my brother so I should get to wear something special to his wedding!

Op are you looking for us to agree she is unreasonable as if so we kinda need to see the dress in question?

I share your opinion. From someone whose MiL wore an off-white suit and hat.

Can you not just post a photo? This is actually beginning to get painful

but your new tale still doesn’t paint the bride in a bad light - someone must have told her your dress was similar so who is the shit stirrer?

this is such a rage bait post like

1. posts the wrong dress for everyone to give advice on
2. doesn’t take advice very well and defensive
3. has said the bride has seen it but then backtracked
4. is still trying to dress the 4 year old like a bridesmaid
5. its like a puppy chasing its tail reading this shite

either post the real dress or none at all and be honest throughout and you’ll get what you need instead of loads of rubbish and inaccurate comments. Your fake dress you posted isn’t really appropriate

Presumably this is a reverse?

Anyway, she's surely his fiancée at this point not his girlfriend?

If your mum has seen your dress because she helped you pick it out, and is now warning you that the bride doesn't want anyone wearing white, YOU CLEARLY HAVE A WHITE DRESS! The fact that you still haven't posted a photo shows you know this. Nothing you have said is making anyone look unreasonable except you. Certainly not the bride.

Finally, someone talking some sense. What sort of person thinks they can dictate what other people wear to their wedding?! As long as they’ve made an effort to look smart, who cares? If it were me I’d be grateful my family member / friend could be there to share my special day, wearing something they feel good in.

The fact you’re not just posting a picture/link of the dress speaks volumes…..

Mum thinks she’s being dramatic which is why she covered for me by saying she herself wouldn’t be wearing a white dress but it’s kind of besides the point since it’s a floral print dress and not a pure white dress

Doesn’t it.

You're still not posting a photo, so nobody believes you.

What fake dress has OP posted ?

I mean the lack of a photo is bizarre but all the dresses posted have been from other posters I think.

Is this your 'special totally not a wedding dress' dress OP?

Just wear a different dress, one that isn’t white in any way even if it has florals, and don’t piss off your brother and his bride when you can easily avoid it.

You seem to actively want to annoy them.

So why are they harassing you to get a new dress if they don’t know as your mum covered for you?

it’s clearly too white but you also clearly want to be the centre of attention

crack on and have a lovely family christmas 🙄

If you don't want to post the dress, post one like it, so it's not outing. Then we can offer a real opinion.

Your mother showed her that dress, on
purpose, you know!!

She showed it to her to gauge her response because your mother knows that you are wearing a white dress to a wedding.

you know it and we all know it

You obviously need to post a picture before we can actually tell you

Is this some form of wind up. So they’ve not seen the dress, thought you were wearing a different dress, and whay you’ve not bothered to tell them thays not the dress and don’t want to show anyone th4 dress. Because you cancelled your wedding last year so want to make theirs about you?

is that what I’m reading?

And she wouldn't have to cover for you if it's not a white dress!

Just don't put any additional stress on the bride or the couple.

Check the dress directly with her. If she thinks it's not OK, just get another one.

Be the bigger person here.

Mrs haversham walks amongst us,,

So why did the second sentence of your OP say

His gf saw my dress and said she thought it was inappropriate because she claims it’s white

If you are going to keep changing your story and not posting a photo there's no point anyone commenting

Post a picture of the dress or similar "so as not to be outing"...

You are clearly being very unreasonable and I hope for your sake that this is a heatwave-related temporary regression.

Life is short. Don't waste it.

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