To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

[Datingwoee]

5th date tomorrow night with a man who has been great up to now. I’ve had to push the time back by an hour - said I’ll need extra time to freshen up after work. His reply to me was: “No worries, can’t be having a whiffy growler lol”.

Is that date cancelling worthy or am I being a bit too harsh?

I think the difference is, you seem to see the comment as 'a mistake', but I tend to see it as a major clue as to how someone 'is'. A mistake implies someone's done something they wouldn't normally do, wish they hadn't, and won't do it again. Someone who's known to be rude and crass, let's say, isn't making a mistake - it's probably inherent like greed, being critical, being a worrier, having blonde hair. I've said some stupid things and wished I hadn't but I'd never say anything like that to anyone. I wouldn't make 'that mistake' because it's not in my inherent nature to even go there. DH couldn't even get those words to form in his brain.

Exactly. It’s a feature, not a bug.

Paid £80K and doesn't know when to use you're and when to use your? Or the correct use of possessives and apostrophes? I must have wasted my time doing a degree, a masters and a PhD.

I think it's: "You're (apostrophe as in you are) definitely late to the party on this. (full point) Thanks (capital letter T) for taking the time to respond. Please don't reply. (full point). I've got 7 people's ironing to complete before the F1 starts. (full point)

@MrChesterDrawers That's (apostrophe as in that is) a lot of people to be ironing for. (full point). Enjoy the F1.

Im guessing you've been single for a LONG time! 😂 Get over yerself girl...

So, by what you say, a beaver with bad breath is acceptable? I can't stop laughing at this one 😂

What on earth are you on about? What you just wrote makes no sense.

Vomit. Cancel.

I'm guessing you'd put up with anything, whether it repels you or not, just so you can have a partner.

no I said insecure not the unclean , but I can guarantee that there are as many 'sisters' making nasty comments about other women not just misogyny.

I would also point out on this site there are plenty of women who love to give out insults but complain and cry off to the moderators to get posts removed when someone responds in kind..

So what though?
These women don't expect us to date them or sleep with them do they? They also don't expect us to be friends with them, they don't complain about a lonlineness epidemic because women don't want to be their friends. People don't tell us we should give them a chance and become best mates with them whether we want to or not even if we're incompatible as friends just in case they might be sad.

I'm not sure what your point is or what part of my debate your responding to

euch
I detect misogyny
get rid of him

Try to read it again then?
It's fairly obvious. Your post was not that long

That’s a no from me

who are these women, ? the ones who are putting other women down , the women who call others 'fishy ' or the women who are claiming that the women who think its just bants or humour are lower class etc.. I've made perhaps a dozen comments or replies on this debate some playing devil's advocate and some of which have been removed by moderators because 1 man/ woman was clearly losing the debate so tried the hyacinth bucket reply by claiming she/ he was something she wasn't then had my post removed as I pointed out her mistakes

Exactly @Rcgc is a poor judge of character and socially naive.

The first two.

From what I've seen the ones who are saying it's lower class are saying that in response to women who are telling others they have no sense of humour and should loosen up and get a life and that if they're dumping men for that then that's probably why they're single.

Interesting recollection of events, and definition of ‘debate’ for that matter. I did in fact reply to your deleted post.

‘Claiming she was something she wasn’t’? I ‘claimed’ to be someone for whom this type of talk wasn’t and isn’t in any way normal or acceptable. Which is true. If you truly cannot comprehend this then not only are your social and cultural circles limited, but your imagination is too.

And yes, yes, we know - any woman with standards is a Hyacinth Bouquet type with ideas above her station. Ever the cry of those affronted by the very notion. So very tedious in how predictably it’s trotted out.

I think its pretty harsh to burn the guy over one badly judged joke, especially if there have been multiple enjoyable dates already.

(A former friend of mine dumped a girl after she vomited all over the inside of his car. Apparently she has been nervous about the date, had a drink to calm her nerves and this happened. But you can clearly see the difference in severity required before a man will burn someone lol )

Its clearly intended as a joke by him, even if it was an error. I think that if it was over a text message that likely makes it seem worse, as you get no "tone" or delivery style in a text, it might have been funnier in the flesh (or not).

I havent heard "growler" since the days of Bo Selecta, is it possible he was a fan?

Could someone who thinks this is a joke explain what makes it funny? Because I really can't see anything humorous?

But you can clearly see the difference in severity required before a man will burn someone lol

Based on what? Your former friends story? 🤔

I don't even think that shows a difference in severity anyway, getting sick all over a mans car isn't worse than what he did.

I'm not sure why people think that saying something gross isn't that bad and that women should let it slide.

Imagine if the OP made a joke to him about taking a massive shite......is he allowed to get the ick from that? I'm sure many men would be turned off women too if they were making 'jokes' like that and they would think they didn't want a girlfriend who sounded like the blokes down the pub etc. And I'm sure that if they asked other men that many would agree that it would turn them off also and that there would be no recovering from it.

hey just fart already that's the deal breaker right? lmao! life is too short bitches!!!! fuck have fun

Ps- at least you are not pregnant right?!

I’d also like to point out to this poster (Mr Drawers) that in one of his earlier posts he used the word ‘bias’ when he actually meant ‘biasED’