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To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

485 replies

Datingwoee · Yesterday 15:52

5th date tomorrow night with a man who has been great up to now. I’ve had to push the time back by an hour - said I’ll need extra time to freshen up after work. His reply to me was: “No worries, can’t be having a whiffy growler lol”.

Is that date cancelling worthy or am I being a bit too harsh?

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Batties · Yesterday 15:54

He sounds gross. Disgusting man.

CurlewKate · Yesterday 15:54

Absolutely date cancelling.

Ilovemychocolate · Yesterday 15:55

🤮

DreamingOfGeneHunt · Yesterday 15:55

If it was someone I knew quite well I would find it funny, but not someone I've only seen five times.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · Yesterday 15:55

Do you mention your dog in the message? Could that be what he is talking about?

Mydahliasareshit · Yesterday 15:56

These crude and infantile types never learn, unfortunately.

Striveforcompetence · Yesterday 15:57

Nope, there is a line for jokes and that’s way way over it. And not funny - just crass and misogynistic. Women really need to put their collective foot down over things like this so these men remain single until they learn and change and grow up.

Oohanothername · Yesterday 15:57

Poorly judged joke. That's all. I laughed tbh 🤣 . If he's great in all other ways then don't dump him over this!

Kingfisherfly · Yesterday 15:58

Urgh. Hasn't he given any clues though?. I csm't imagine a man who's usually completely respectful in person writing that.

Asterales · Yesterday 15:59

Urgh. I'd have to cancel, because I just couldn't enjoy the evening (today or any other time) with him after that.

BillieWiper · Yesterday 15:59

That is rank. I mean if you'd been having really dirty scatalogical 'banter' up until then and you'd been talking about him not having a smeggy cock then I guess?!

But otherwise yeah I'd say sayonara to that one.

Cloudconfusion · Yesterday 15:59

Usually I’ve a sense of humour but that’s not funny from a new date. I think it would give me hesitation, I’d still see him, but one more like that and I’d be out.

Peterdottir · Yesterday 16:00

Cancel!

MyArtfulGreySloth · Yesterday 16:00

Yuck

Pippa12 · Yesterday 16:00

It did make me laugh tbh but I’d be abit shocked if I was sent that early on in a relationship.

Depends how much you like him tho, maybe it’s just a case of telling him you don’t find that language acceptable.

geumsun · Yesterday 16:01

At least he revealed why he's single early. Next!

outerspacepotato · Yesterday 16:01

Ick.

If what he said is what I think he said, he can fuck right off.

monkeysox · Yesterday 16:02

DreamingOfGeneHunt · Yesterday 15:55

If it was someone I knew quite well I would find it funny, but not someone I've only seen five times.

This

GisGasGus · Yesterday 16:03

Have you slept together yet? Definitely ick if not and still ick if you have really

Alittlefrustrated · Yesterday 16:04

No point telling him his joke/language isn't funny, because he thinks it is 🤷
You can't change that. I'd move on.

OhBotherSaidPoo · Yesterday 16:09

Well in that case he better wash his face

ClimbEveryLadder · Yesterday 16:14

You can cancel a date for any reason you like.

That’s grim, tells you he’s misogynistic and crude. Throw him back and try again

Sparrowsandbudgies · Yesterday 16:15

No. Immediately no. Ick.

rwalker · Yesterday 16:16

with things like this you need to know your audience
5 dates I’d say no

JoyousOpalLemur · Yesterday 16:17

Delete number and block