To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

[Datingwoee]

5th date tomorrow night with a man who has been great up to now. I’ve had to push the time back by an hour - said I’ll need extra time to freshen up after work. His reply to me was: “No worries, can’t be having a whiffy growler lol”.

Is that date cancelling worthy or am I being a bit too harsh?

Depends how bantery you are with each other I suppose, I would find this funny but I can understand why some wouldn’t.

For me, it’s not even the terminology (which I’ve never heard before, but sounds revolting) - it’s the immediate sexual reference when you’re just talking about normal life like having a shower when you’ve come home from work on a swelteringly hot day. It’s just so unromantic and, whilst obviously relationships rely on sexual attraction, it shouldn’t be the only thing you think of (and even if that is how a lot of people think, have the manners to keep it to yourself.) I think I’m better suited to old-fashioned ‘wooing’ than the modern dating scene!

I wander if this is a case of him blurting out something he world never usually say? Its grim nonetheless, but I wouldn't necessarily hold it against him unless it's a growing trend

Modern dating is literally the ghetto.

I think I might be tempted to reply with, "Growler? Is that a typo?" and see whether he dug himself in deeper (in which case, yes, dump, he's going to be tedious and embarrassing at best) or acknowledged that it was a really stupid thing to have said.

It would put me off!!

As you are shocked enough to have posted on MN I'm guessing he's been polite and well mannered up to now and this is well outside what you are comfortable with.

My OH is from Yorkshire and growler is pretty common slang so I wouldn't be offended by the term itself. I would be pissed off that some bloke I hardly knew was talking about my genitals in the 1st place though!

In my experience, those little warning signs early on that you aren't on the same page should be listened too.

This. I am just baffled at somebody thinking that was an appropriate thing to say to somebody you are in the early stages of dating.

No judgrment honestly but you shouldnt have slept with him as hes now acting not respectful and also telling you hes expexting sex tonight, if you like him i would message him to say the comment is not respectful and you dont appreciatte that hes hinting he expects it and see what he says, if you do see him tonight dont sleep with him, to be honest i wouldnt be able to see past it

I’d be instantly turned off, I’m afraid.

I laughed 😬

Whiffy growler = Smelly dog?

What conversational charm!

Bah! Sit in your garden with a large jug of Margaritas and enjoy the evening, al fresco and al solo.

not saying its right but thats the context for his comment, because at a guess it will presume at some point you to will "dance" again so to speak

but with the added context of having already done the dance with no pants it adds context

Sounds like an online dater. They start off so well in their profiles but this type of guy invariably cocks it up talking about his penis and blow jobs in the last line. He wouldn’t be for me.

He would be a burn on the haystack for me too. Now he has got want he wanted he can be himself. Believe him he is showing you who he is.

well he already shagged the op

Urgh yuck. Like a pp I wouldn’t mind if it was a friend saying it but a potential partner? Off you fuck.

I think you've had a glimpse of who he is.
You can't change him. You now know how he views women. You either think it was okay and are prepared for more of the same, or you're not. If you continue, his friends are likely all similar and he's likely much worse than the comment.

Sounds like the type of man who makes the ' fish' jokes too. Dump him.

Nah fuck that. Sounds like the immature idiots I met after my divorce, who literally only wanted sex.

And that's all this guy wants. He's shown you. Sorry op. This was never going to be a nice date. He was after a shag.

**just seen the drip feed that you've already had sex. Well in that case he wants to keep shagging.

Depends on your sense of humour 😂
If you don't have compatible humour, that might be a problem!

It does sound a bit like now he's had sex he's going to make absolutely every single remark sexual. He's got a bit over excited and thinks sex is going to be on offer at every date.

Revolting little man.

I had to ask ChatGPT what is a whiffy growler. It is not dog.

Is “growler” slang for vagina?