To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

[Datingwoee]

5th date tomorrow night with a man who has been great up to now. I’ve had to push the time back by an hour - said I’ll need extra time to freshen up after work. His reply to me was: “No worries, can’t be having a whiffy growler lol”.

Is that date cancelling worthy or am I being a bit too harsh?

Is this the first comment like this he’s made? Seems a bit random.

But no, you wouldn’t be unreasonable. Vile.

He’s got no class whatsoever.

Yes it is the first

not saying its right comment, whats he like in all other aspects ?

DP and I have been together twenty-odd years and I can't imagine him thinking that was OK to say.

I would make reference to it, such as 'I think you've given me the ick with that comment'

Red Flag. Gross. Cancel.

It’s not really funny but it’s not offensive either.

I think you’re being a bit dramatic.

Absolutely this. There’s also a book and an Insta page where you can watch her explain which rhetorical flags to watch for.

Everything would clamp shut for me. Ew.

Hairy back and toe fungus.

Cancel. It is an awful comment from anyone but even more so from someone you have not known long. This is him at his best. God knows what he would be like in a couple of years.

if thats your fantasy then thats understandable

I just shared this with my husband for a man's perspective and he said unequivocally YANBU and was horrified someone would say that to a date. 😂

I’m quite surprised by the responses tbh.

This would have made me laugh and then not think any more about it.

I'd definitely cancel. Ick.

Now that you have revealed you have had sex its less shocking. Puerile and tacky but more in context. It would still be a no thanks though.

I mean, who would find this funny? "the guys" in the changing room after a football match? I'd like to know. It's just disgusting. Not funny but disgusting, just plain disgusting.

It reminds me of a couple of months ago someone came on to ask if she'd be unreasonable to cancel a date with a man who'd proposed rimming by text in the most grim way possible. They'd had no previous discussion about it, he just sent a random text to a woman he barely knew. I hope to God she cancelled him.

It is a bit grim to be honest. I wonder if it's sent it and now regrets it. Sometimes people say stupid things if they are nervous/ don't know how to respond. Still cringe.

I would look at this in the context of everything else you have found about him. Its poor judged in a new relationship. However if my husband had text me this, I would have probably just replied with something to gross him out too.

I don’t think it changes anything tbh. It’s repulsive phrasing regardless.

true

Love that group but lament 21 year old me did not have access to this kind of advice!

ICK!

Now that you have thought about it and talked on here it would be on your mind whenever you meet him.