To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

[Datingwoee]

5th date tomorrow night with a man who has been great up to now. I’ve had to push the time back by an hour - said I’ll need extra time to freshen up after work. His reply to me was: “No worries, can’t be having a whiffy growler lol”.

Is that date cancelling worthy or am I being a bit too harsh?

My immediate reaction was Eww.

Have to say that would give me serious ick.

Way too gross for a new relationship especially!! Eeewww

It would depend on how much I liked him and if there was anything else that made me cringe. Over the years I’ve made a decent amount of jokes that have landed flat because sometimes I don’t think before I speak - so on the one hand I kind of get it. On the other hand it’s a minging comment and the word “growler” made me fucking wince.

I just screamed.
If you don't cancel I'll cancel it for you right here right now and I'll cancel it again tomorrow and everyday for the rest of the year.

Thats really funny - made me snort! its how I talk to friends/partner/brothers. If it was a new person I was dating I would be a bit taken aback - but also be quite excited that they had the same crude humour as me/my close circle. Hed probably be a keeper for me. If you aren't that way inclined though then don't go there.

I’ve never heard of a growler. Guessing it’s slang for vulva, but is it like fanny , which I think is neutral, pussy, which I think is ghastly and twee , or is it more like twat or minge, which I would not expect an adult to use?

Well where I’m from a growler is a pork pie 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 but yeah it’s a bit grim after a few dates.

Are you sleeping with him? If yes then I think it is a poor joke but nothing major. If not, then that is date cancelling for me. Major ick from a man im not intimate with.

I guess that proves the saying there's someone out there for everyone, you're in luck that there's not going to be anyone else fighting you for him on the basis of the replies so far 😀

Why is it funny?

Ask him what he means with faux innocence

Personally, I wouldn’t touch him with a barge pole.

Not being willing to deal with a man that comes out with…that…is hardly demanding perfection. I’d personally call it having basic standards.

And yes, I wouldn’t hesitate to keep dumping.

Is it just his way of hinting he wants sex? I'd bring it up. "That joke you made earlier, was that you hinting about something".. anyone can act normal for 4 dates, just be careful he isn't a secret douchebag(!)

Delete, block. He’s shown you his mysogyny. Run away now.

It does imply that the relationship is based purely on sex

💯 cancel

Oh jeez. How old is he? Sounds v immature. If my partner of a zillion years, who I would know was joking, said this, I’d probably laugh. A new man? No.

I usually think MN who post similar thread titles are quite precious with no sense of humour but not in this case.

It’s the word growler, it’s such a horrible word. There’s no reason for him to be referring to your body like that. I wouldn’t see him again.

Jesus! Release back into the wild pronto!

I think he’s hinting that he wants to have sex with you on this date. He’s gross. Why would a man think that’s what women want to hear.

Yeah after our last date. I’ve definitely got the ick now.

Unless you've had previous banter using similar sorts of phrases I'd be quite shocked by the message. Does his humour generally seem a bit off piste? (I might coin 'whiffy growler' as a nickname for my dog as it's a pretty accurate description).

It would definitely be one step over the line. If he already had one step over it would be a gonner if it was genuinely just a gross misjudged trying to be funny comment I would just be one foot over the line but next time . . . .