To have paid for all my newborns things?

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Just wanted opinions here!

FTM. My newborn is 12 weeks old - he is a bundle of joy. It has just dawned on me that I have bought everything for him; from sudocream, to cots, to prams - all clothes, the full works. My hormones are settling and I am starting to see things a bit clearer. I worked until 36 weeks. Professional career.

I use coffee / nicorette (ex/smoker) (!) to keep me awake during all the nights feeds as I do those too. Essentially, I asked my husband to go and buy me those two things to get me through the night shift - I noticed he had transferred £30 for it from our joint account to his account? I was like what the hell? I pointed out I had paid for everything else. Is he taking the piss?!

AIBU?

Did he really want the baby? It wasn't planned. He has checked out of family life and I don't think there is any going back. Lots of suspicious time away from home....is it all work?

This is absolutely shocking.

I'm afraid to say you appear to have married a financially abusive leech, OP, and he's not even around enough to help with the baby if he's away at the weekends "golfing" and at conferences as well as working 12 hours a day (I'm a bit cynical about that, too, tbh).

Golf isn't work (unless he's a pro golfer), it's a hobby, and an expensive one at that. When do you ever get free time for your hobbies? And why does he have to go to so many conferences? A friend was married to the general secretary of an international trade union, and even he only went to 4 or 5 conferences a year.

You'd be better off without him, and claiming through CMS imo. He appears to contribute fuck all to your marriage emotionally or financially and precious little as a parent.

A joint account only one person pays into 🤣. He saw you coming OP!!

Who owns your house, does he pay enough for bills and food.

Question for OP....

Why husband when ex-husband shaped?