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To just hate having a woman's body

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Redgreenbluetwo · 21/04/2026 16:01

Maybe it's cos everything has happened at once today, but I just hate having a woman's body, and DH doesn't know how lucky he is.

Meant to be going on a spa day tomorrow with my friend. Obviously I got my period today. It fucking hurts, is a mess, and makes tomorrow more difficult. On top of that I have to go through the rigmarole of hair removal. I hate having dark hair and having to shave my armpits most days. Just such a pain in the arse. Now I have to do my bikini line later as well, and woe betide me if my legs are ever prickly. And my bra has been giving me gyp at work all day too.

Just bugger off with it all.

DH has to worry about none of those things. Sometimes I just hate it. I can't really remember what it was like to be a kid and not have the hassle of these things either but they really are just so bloody annoying!! And we have childbirth. And I have the menopause to look forward to. Men can be as hairy as they like, have no periods, no bras, no anything. Aaarggh!

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Slupeyisinteresting · 27/04/2026 12:14

Sharptonguedwoman · 27/04/2026 10:16

Please go to an expert and have a proper bra fitting. I don't think they should be uncomfortable, I never think about mine (do have small boobs though). You can get soft bras.....

The size makes a difference, I've been to many fittings, done boob or bust etc. Its just never good. You cant get away from the fact that weight has to go somewhere

Sharptonguedwoman · 27/04/2026 12:22

Slupeyisinteresting · 27/04/2026 12:14

The size makes a difference, I've been to many fittings, done boob or bust etc. Its just never good. You cant get away from the fact that weight has to go somewhere

All sympathy. I have a friend with big boobs and when I was expressing gentle envy she said her back suffered because of them😬

AuntChippy · 27/04/2026 12:32

I’d absolutely hate to have big boobs. My friends with big ones loathe them. And yes, now we’re 50 plus, they have back issues and the dreaded droop.

Usernamenotfound1 · 27/04/2026 14:11

GimmieABreakOr3 · 22/04/2026 19:25

I didn’t suggest you were celibate. When you’re in a relationship/marriage, it can be different though. I am glad you don’t personally feel pressure, but sadly, for a lot of us women, we do…

If you feel pressure from your partner or husband to shave I don’t think that’s ok.

one of the benefits, for me, of a LTR is I don’t need to shave for him, ever. He likes my body whatever I do.

Redgreenbluetwo · 27/04/2026 21:48

Sharptonguedwoman · 27/04/2026 10:16

Please go to an expert and have a proper bra fitting. I don't think they should be uncomfortable, I never think about mine (do have small boobs though). You can get soft bras.....

I have tiny boobs (A or B depending on the time of the month). They don't normally get and my bras are fine. They were just annoying me the other day. Now my period is over the world seems fine again and my boobs are their normal selves as well!

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