To just hate having a woman's body

[Redgreenbluetwo]

Maybe it's cos everything has happened at once today, but I just hate having a woman's body, and DH doesn't know how lucky he is.

Meant to be going on a spa day tomorrow with my friend. Obviously I got my period today. It fucking hurts, is a mess, and makes tomorrow more difficult. On top of that I have to go through the rigmarole of hair removal. I hate having dark hair and having to shave my armpits most days. Just such a pain in the arse. Now I have to do my bikini line later as well, and woe betide me if my legs are ever prickly. And my bra has been giving me gyp at work all day too.

Just bugger off with it all.

DH has to worry about none of those things. Sometimes I just hate it. I can't really remember what it was like to be a kid and not have the hassle of these things either but they really are just so bloody annoying!! And we have childbirth. And I have the menopause to look forward to. Men can be as hairy as they like, have no periods, no bras, no anything. Aaarggh!

Well, what looks "good" or "nice" is both culturally determined at a mainstream level and also wildy individual/subjective. I think my hairy armpits look good, and I generally find them attractive on men and other women.

How can the urge to "groom", by which I assume you mean depilate, be to do with reproduction rather then society when women's body hair is a natural secondary sex characteristic and fertility marker? It appears at puberty and largely disappears at menopause. That isn't a coincidence.

I prefer to look like a natural woman of reproductive age rather than prepubescent/post-menopausal and sterile.The only female humans who are naturally hairless on their bodies are too young to reproduce, too old to reproduce, or have some health condition that may make them unable to reproduce, such as a Disorder of Sexual Development or undergoing chemotherapy. How could attraction to that have anything to do with reproduction?

No, no, when I said "groom" I meant the whole shebang. Hair, makeup, nice clothes, perfume, shaving, accessorising, etc. Whatever of these things that people like to do - or all, if applicable.

I think that fashions are dictated by society, absolutely. But the human urge to groom, most pronounced in females, is found in the earliest civilisations, according to archeological finds, and we know that kohl was being used as eyeliner in pre-Christian times at least. And there was no photography or TV or magazine or internet advertising back then, as far as I'm told!

As I said, I wouldn't be surprised if the impulse to polish and decorate oneself is actually an ingrained mating strategy and not so much to do with society.