To refuse to be a witness against colleague??

[Pukkajones]

Christmas party, a few nights ago. At a hotel, as it was timed with a big sales meeting, so everyone staying over, 200 ish people, free bar as well as a formal dinner.
Drinking very much encouraged. Staff ages ranged from early 20s to the senior staff in their 50s. Everyone VERY merry.
One colleague, let’s call her Jenny, got a bit carried away, throwing shapes on the dance floor, too touchy feely with men and women apparently then groped one older male colleagues testicles at which point friends grabbed hold of her and steered her off up stairs to her room.
She escaped. Came back down - paralytic at this point - and flashed her boobs at a senior male colleague! In the side bar area so fewer people around me being one of them. Another colleague and I intervened and friends got her again and put her to bed, this time someone stayed with her.

Now I’m being asked to come and tell what I saw to her line manager. I’m in training for an event at the moment so it’s common knowledge that I wasn’t drinking and was sober.

I really don’t want to. She’s lovely, usually quiet and sensible, the company got her poleaxed and now want to carpet her. I’m not a bloody snitch plus - why can’t the guy she flashed at say what happened. Why do I need to be involved???

I’ve been working away since the party so have no idea what is being said in office other than the OMG, Jenny! What was she doing??? Messages. But trust me, there’s plenty of stories from that night… so she’s in good company.

YABU - snitch on her. A man doing that would be in so much trouble.

YANBU - deny seeing anything. If the company ply everyone with that much booze there’s bound to be uncouth behaviour and they probably have enough witnesses already.

Hyperbole.

It is wrong.

So you're equating groping colleagues with being a "joy". Charming.

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G. O. T

From the OP, ‘she flashed her bra’.

A bra is what covers the boobs (that you can still see)

Not what she said in the first post.

It must be great to see the world in such black and white. I can't imagine having such a rigid brain or thought process that cannot accept another person's point of view.

Apparently when you're drunk at a party it's okay to act like this. Nothing about any basic decent standards. Why not flash your knickers as well?

From the OP ‘she grabbed a colleagues testicles’.

I actually have some morals and act with decency in my life.

Sounds like you could learn a bit.

But PP says OP "didn't see that".

The OP witnessed no groping! Yet you want this woman hung drawn and quartered on hearsay and office gossip. Merry fucking Christmas!

Gossip - other people's eyewitness testimony. Would you at least say the groping is wrong (if it did happen)?

Did you not read the part where she said that was gossip and she didn’t see that?

Oh come on 😂

Ah yes now we have it, the old "morals" chestnut. You do realise that morals are personal principles and not some fixed standard hmm? Moral standards are not yours to dictate.

You see what you see as your "morals" and "decency" I see as closed mindedness, judgement and prudishness.

My moral code includes kindness, charity and not vilifying someone for a minor drunken mistake.

Won't be replying to any further comments from you as it is a pointless exercise as you are incapable of being reasonable. Good night and have a nice life where hopefully you don't meet too many other people like yourself.

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Simply being drunk doesn't take away responsibility for actions. I know how to behave, especially at work and in the presence of others.

Perhaps this person (and you) should think about how your actions affect the people around you.

Funny you can't answer.

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What?

Would you say the same if a man groped a woman's crotch?

We've lost sight of what a drunken office party looks like🤣

Some real belters on this thread, right up there with the tradie shitting in their toilet

Won't answer not can't.

There's is no point in trying to debate something with a closed minded bully who's only raison d'etre is to keep flogging a dead horse of an argument to prove how fucking superior they and their belief system are.

You are a total bore. I am currently experiencing the 32nd hour of a power cut while living in the middle of nowhere - but sitting in the cold and dark is still sooo much more fun than trying to communicate intelligently with you.

This time I really am fucking off so you can have that last word that you so clearly crave for validation. Ciao.