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My dog walker and the builder having an affair?

204 replies

ThatJadeQuail · 04/07/2025 23:22

Pretty much what it says in the title!

I have a dog walker that comes in and walks my dog 4 times a week, she has walked my dog for 5 years and is brilliant, a lovely woman who always goes above and beyond. She is married.

I have a pet cam at the front of my house I see what time she comes and goes each day. But I don’t really look at it and it only sees the front of the house in living room not the back rooms.

I currently have a builder here who is working on my extension and has been for a month. He’s also done other work on my property and I’ve always trusted him.

ive noticed my dog walker has been staying here longer than usual after she leaves the dog (I am at work) and I’ve noticed the builder (who is also married) bringing up the dog walker in a lot of conversations.

then today my dog walker stayed for 1.5 hours after the time of walking my dog and on my camera I can definitely hear “noises” that are possibly sex noises but its hard to tell because camera is picking up from a ropm
or two away.

what do I do? Do I bring this up with them? Do I leave it as it’s none of my business? Do I say I know and to stop using my house? Or have I just let my imagination run wild and it could be completely innocent? It’s a very awkward thing to bring up!

OP posts:
WooleyMunky · 05/07/2025 19:45

Zanzara · 05/07/2025 19:36

Or foxes?

Drifts off into a happy mist of MN nostalgia

Is he using a beaker afterwards?

PinkPanther50 · 05/07/2025 19:49

Game0fCrones · 05/07/2025 13:32

I swear Ive read this exact same thread a few years ago.

I definitely did! Can’t remember the ending though!

justasking111 · 05/07/2025 19:53

PinkPanther50 · 05/07/2025 19:49

I definitely did! Can’t remember the ending though!

It's a common occurrence. We had a delivery driver did the same round every week. He'd enjoyed many a housewife over the years.

SpidersAreShitheads · 05/07/2025 19:57

PinkPanther50 · 05/07/2025 19:49

I definitely did! Can’t remember the ending though!

I was coming here to say this!

I seem to remember she thought the builder was taking a blanket and/or pillow from his van out to the summerhouse, or similar. It was quite a while ago - I don’t think it ever reached a conclusion, so to speak 😂

Fernandez54 · 05/07/2025 20:12

Sounds like a carry on film 🤣🤣🤣

ReadingSoManyThreads · 05/07/2025 20:29

I'd be really fucked off that they're probably shagging in one of your beds. That's disrespectful and grim. It's your HOME.

I'd also be fucked off if you're paying the builder a daily rate, as then you're literally paying him to have sex in your own home.

This is grim, I'd be pissed off. I'd put a couple of other cameras up around your house. Then when you catch where they're doing it, I'd be making damn sure dog walker knows you know.

How close is the building work to being finished?

PopeJoan2 · 05/07/2025 21:27

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 05/07/2025 13:42

I'd be more worried about where!! In my house - yuck! There's no good options, bed - awful, kitchen - yuck! I wonder if they're just getting on really well, maybe I'm naive but jumping straight to sex seems a stretch, could they be having a cuppa and a chat, am I incredibly tragic assuming this, possibly. I just find the idea they'd only met in passing and then suddenly one day deiced to shag in both their clients house a bit of a leap...
Either way, drop some innocent questions to both, very gently, and hopefully they either get the hint or do it elsewhere

That has got to be the best cup of tea ever!! I’ll have what she’s having!!

pharmer · 06/07/2025 01:50

I doubt anyone would be daft enough to get an extension built on a day rate basis

DangerousAlchemy · 06/07/2025 08:42

Jc2001 · 05/07/2025 14:49

No, tell her you're at work and hide in the cupboard all day. It's the only way to be sure.

Yeah work in a cafe nearby then go home when you see her taking your dog back on the ring doorbell. Say you forgot something. I'm loving all these comments 🤣👏

DangerousAlchemy · 06/07/2025 08:43

SpidersAreShitheads · 05/07/2025 19:57

I was coming here to say this!

I seem to remember she thought the builder was taking a blanket and/or pillow from his van out to the summerhouse, or similar. It was quite a while ago - I don’t think it ever reached a conclusion, so to speak 😂

it made its way into Daily Mail I think 🤔

SpidersAreShitheads · 06/07/2025 17:44

DangerousAlchemy · 06/07/2025 08:43

it made its way into Daily Mail I think 🤔

Did it?!

Sounds about right for the Mail 🙄 Mind you, it was a captivating story, IIRC we were all desperate to find out what happened next 😂

BoredZelda · 06/07/2025 17:51

🎶Baum chicka wah wah🎶

Zanzara · 07/07/2025 10:30

WooleyMunky · 05/07/2025 19:45

Is he using a beaker afterwards?

Where's the laughter emoji when you need it? 😁

KimberleyClark · 07/07/2025 10:36

If they are having sex in OP's house it absolutely is her business. Can‘t see why anyone would say otherwise.

katseyes7 · 07/07/2025 13:27

*WooleyMunky *
😂

vovov · 07/07/2025 14:01

KimberleyClark · 07/07/2025 10:36

If they are having sex in OP's house it absolutely is her business. Can‘t see why anyone would say otherwise.

Yes it is her business. But the bottom line is that this negative is far outweighed by having a good dogwalker and a good builder. So I would personally suck this up as a temporary unfortunate incident/s.

youreactinglikeafunmum · 09/07/2025 19:07

Op, has there been any update?? 😄

CreationNat1on · 09/07/2025 19:21

I think they are chinwagging over tea.

CreationNat1on · 09/07/2025 19:22

Builders love gossip, and they can chat as they are doing stuff.

CloudPop · 10/07/2025 12:17

youreactinglikeafunmum · 04/07/2025 23:25

This is the kind of gossip I live for 🤭🤭

Do not say anything yet at least - you dont know for sure anything is happening

Same !!!

Laura95167 · 11/07/2025 21:35

To dogwalker:

Hey, I was recharging/updating my camera and noticed you were here 90mins after DOGs walk. Was she poorly? Was there something wrong with her i need to keep an eye on?

She how squirmy she gets

TheCheekyCyanHelper · 13/07/2025 18:47

It is NEVER acceptable for two people WORKING FOR YOU, to have sex in your home! Their being married is beside the fact!

youreactinglikeafunmum · 13/07/2025 22:16

justasking111 · 13/07/2025 21:39

@ThatJadeQuail

"Woman Torn Over How to Confront Her Married Dog Walker Possibly Having an Affair with Her Married Builder Under Her Roof" https://ca.style.yahoo.com/woman-torn-over-confront-her-080000302.html?guccounter=1

Omg ive heard of this happening but have never seen it 😄😄

@ThatJadeQuail

justasking111 · 13/07/2025 22:41

It's very identifying I'd want it pulled @ThatJadeQuail