Is sending me money a red flag?

[Kenyaparks]

So I’ve been talking to this man for about a month now. We’ve done loads of phone and video calls. He lives out of state but he happens to live in the state that I’m moving to in a couple months. He is also coming out to where I am to visit me before I move out there.

I jokingly asked him for coffee money and he sent me some, I told him jokingly that it wasn’t enough and he ended up sending me more money? It was all jokes I didn’t think he was going to obviously do it, I definitely appreciate it. I was in the store today and I told him he should by a watch from the store I was at? He asked me if I wanted it and that he would send me the money… I obviously declined the offer.

is it a red flag that he’s sending me money and hasn’t met me yet ?

It makes him look desperate and easily taken advantage of. Unless he is very well off and just a generous person. Not necessarily a red flag.

The red flag is you keep asking for money.

How does he have your details?

This is so strange, you're both red flagging one another.

you are the red flag! Why are you asking a stranger for money?

How ?

You are the red flag.

Why do you keep asking him for money? Who even does that?

I think his family and friends would be advising him that you are a red flag.

You happily gave him your bank details. Be very mindful that he may insist you pay him back in other ways.

Your jokes are very weird and this guy doesn't have very good boundaries so he could easily be taken advantage of. I think you should treat him more kindly. Why are you asking for money? Just stop. Why are you talking with someone who doesn't even live anywhere near you? Try developing healthy local friendships.

You are absolutely the red flag seeing how far you can push him

Why are you asking him for money? That’s weird leave him alone.

How does he have your bank details ? I wouldn’t give any bank information to a relative stranger.

Yep, sounds like a gold digger. Why give bank details to someone you’ve never even met?

Send me money, here's my bank details

Is it a red flag he keeps sending me money?

Does he have your bank details?

There a show on Netflix called love rats. It’s about how con artists manage to gain confidence of their victims. Appearing generous can be a tactic. If he starts to ask you for money further down the line, be careful.

Or he might just be very generous.

Strangest OP I’ve read in a long time. I can’t see what’s ‘jokey’ about asking and receiving money from someone you’ve never met.

Are you on Only Fans?

It's entirely weird of you to ask him for money, and entirely weird of him to send it.

This isn't how proper relationships work IRL.

This!

What does this even mean OP:

I told him he should by a watch from the store I was at?

You were "only joking" so much that you gave him your bank details?

The guy seems vulnerable. And I don’t believe you’re “joking”.