Is sending me money a red flag?

[Kenyaparks]

So I’ve been talking to this man for about a month now. We’ve done loads of phone and video calls. He lives out of state but he happens to live in the state that I’m moving to in a couple months. He is also coming out to where I am to visit me before I move out there.

I jokingly asked him for coffee money and he sent me some, I told him jokingly that it wasn’t enough and he ended up sending me more money? It was all jokes I didn’t think he was going to obviously do it, I definitely appreciate it. I was in the store today and I told him he should by a watch from the store I was at? He asked me if I wanted it and that he would send me the money… I obviously declined the offer.

is it a red flag that he’s sending me money and hasn’t met me yet ?

I'd say you're the red flag here. You keep asking him for money. Even as a joke, who does that?

Have you had a video chat with him to make he is actually the person (and age) he’s telling you he is??
He sounds dodgy and you sound vulnerable to be honest.

You're both acting strangely. Asking for money as a joke would be a red flag for me.

We’ve only talked for 4 weeks … He shouldn’t want to know my exact apartment…

Yes we’ve had like 10 video chats already

What do you mean by dodgy ?

This.

it wasn’t a joke, jokes are funny and make people laugh. It was an effort at control, manipulation and not a nice look.

It gets more bizarre by the minute you both sound desperate

You both sound hard work - block him and find someone else.
ps ……and don’t ask the new one for money repeatedly. 🚩🚩🚩

You will mature one day bless you.

It’s such a weird thing to even enter your head, (joking or otherwise), that’s why you’re coming across as a red flag.

He is already telling you he wants you to stay where he tells you, pay for things you didn’t ask for (flights), who does that for a stranger?
It’s a manipulation tactic.
You’re asking if this is a red flag, of course it is! Follow your guy not your wallet.

He also has asked me multiple times while on the phone with him, who I was texting ? Apparently he can he hear my nails typing ??

Before the asking who I was texting I would have said take all the money you can get. You can always reward him later if you like, but asking who you are messaging is a big no no.

I don’t think is right for either of you. Cut him off and look elsewhere.

He is creepy and will keep you as a slave
Just stop.
Meet him when you out there but do not agree to stay at his house til you know him where he works and his mates and family

Not RTFT but some men wish to be financially dominated. I wish I had extra funds coming in!

How did he have your details to send you money on a cash app? And why did you accept it?

What on earth is a “cash app”?

You asked for money, he sent it to you. If you think it’s weird then stop asking him for money.

I disagree with all these replies disapproving of this. Each to their own. If he enjoys being financially dominated then let him crack on!

Just the thought of that sound goes through me, but that’s by the by… stop talking to him if you think he’s weird. Stop asking him for money. Stop giving him details. Block him and move on.

It sounds kind of like you're fulfilling some kind of fetish, like fin-domme or something.

I wouldn't meet him.
You don't know what he thinks he's bought.

Depending on the user name(s), CashApp (if it is this app the OP is using), is anonymous. However, just because someone sends you money, it does not mean you have to cash it out.

I think you both sound awful, you for asking for coffee money, even jokingly. He sounds possessive, more so given he wants to know who you're texting. As a reminder, until you meet, it's not real. This is not real. It's just video calls and the like. Your best bet is to simply block, cut contact and move on. If you continue, can only conclude you're desperate. Why? Because you're 24 years old and about to move to a new state. You'll meet other men. You don't need to put this egg in your basket.

You are a wall of red flags. Poor guy

It’s more of a red flag that you “jokingly” (can’t see how it’s funny myself) ask him for money, repeatedly, after you know he has already sent it and is likely to send it again…