DP wants to end relationship over misunderstanding with waitress

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Went out for a meal with DP and all was going well. That was, until the mains arrived, and DP was adamant he had ordered his meal without mushrooms, yet his food had arrived containing them. A bit of a back and forth started between him and the waitress, who was saying DP definitely didn't ask for no mushrooms.

DP then turns to me and says something along the lines of, "Tell her I ordered no mushrooms". I immediately felt embarrassed and mumbled, "I can't remember". I hate confrontation and I genuinely couldn't remember.

The waitress eventually took the food back to go and fix the apparent mistake and DP was absolutely fuming saying even if I couldn't remember, I should have lied and said that I did and he kept repeating "Don't you know I don't like mushrooms?" After about 20 mins of being in a strop, he said that he would now have to reconsider the relationship as he doesn't want to be with someone who 'doesn't have his back'

Like the emotional wreck that I am, I began crying at the table and he told me to stop because I was embarrassing him.

So my question is, was I wrong to say I couldn't remember or should I have lied?

How long have you been with this dipstick?

FFS! Mushrooms? Definitely looking for an excuse.

Sorry OP, sounds like you will be better off without this sulky man.

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Ugh. He sounds awful. I think you should be doing the reconsidering.

Run. He's a dick.

Not sure I'd want to be with someone who was such a brat about his food!

Wow after that exchange I'd have been telling him I'd have to reconsider the relationship. Gaslighting the poor waitress and wanting you to go along to make him look the big man - he sounds awful!

Throw this one back he sounds like a right twat!

Oh, just fuck the tosser off and have peaceful meals without him bullying waitresses.

Does not sound a fungi to be with,

An adult man would have said "Ah, don't worry, I'll just pick them out".

Is this their typical behaviour ?

A one of, I'd not end a relationship, but be pissed off with them. If it is regular behaviour from.your DP, I'd be saying 'yes, I agree we need to rethink this relationship"

Beat me to it!
LTB he sounds like an utter dick

Dump.
You sound down trodden and miserable with him.
He sounds like a bullying prick.

A man who bullies waitresses, tries to blame you for his embarrassment, threatens you.

Leave.

Do you generally have his back? My DH never takes my side when things get tense with in-laws. Although the mushrooms things is small issue, it would really trigger me given how DH let’s me down all the time when in-laws are around.

I always find that people who are rude or unpleasant to waiting staff (or retail workers, or cleaning staff, or receptionists) are pretty fucking horrible in all other walks of life, so you've dodged a bullet here.

<hands @WelshPool her coat> 😂

He’s not a gentleman. Into the bin.

Argued with a waitress then blamed you - what a cunt. You deserve better

To have someone's back does not include lying for them to shame another person

I mean, there's no need for a back and forth tbh, surely they could have just taken the meal and corrected it? Not sure why this even became an issue! No need to bring you into it, no need to cry and the table.

This. And he sounds like a bully

Yes, I agree.