DP wants to end relationship over misunderstanding with waitress

[Butterfly75756]

Went out for a meal with DP and all was going well. That was, until the mains arrived, and DP was adamant he had ordered his meal without mushrooms, yet his food had arrived containing them. A bit of a back and forth started between him and the waitress, who was saying DP definitely didn't ask for no mushrooms.

DP then turns to me and says something along the lines of, "Tell her I ordered no mushrooms". I immediately felt embarrassed and mumbled, "I can't remember". I hate confrontation and I genuinely couldn't remember.

The waitress eventually took the food back to go and fix the apparent mistake and DP was absolutely fuming saying even if I couldn't remember, I should have lied and said that I did and he kept repeating "Don't you know I don't like mushrooms?" After about 20 mins of being in a strop, he said that he would now have to reconsider the relationship as he doesn't want to be with someone who 'doesn't have his back'

Like the emotional wreck that I am, I began crying at the table and he told me to stop because I was embarrassing him.

So my question is, was I wrong to say I couldn't remember or should I have lied?

Not a keeper. Put him in the bin with the mushrooms.

If he doesn't end the relationship, you should. What an abusive arse - towards both you and the waitress.

Like the emotional wreck that I am, I began crying at the table and he told me to stop because I was embarrassing him.

Would you consider yourself to have always been an emotional wreck? Or has your relationship with DP contributed to this? Please leave him

Sounds like you're well rid tbh

You can definitely judge someone's character by the way they treat waiting/serving staff. And you should.

What a twat, I'm sorry op ☹️

I can’t stand men who are fussy about food. It’s a sound indicator that they’re shit in bed.
In any case, he sounds like a rude, bullying twat and you’re better off without him.

This

Don't give him time to reconsider the relationship. End it for him. What a miserable cunt he sounds.

Holy macaroni, what an absolute dick. Mushrooms or not, you can do a lot better.

What an ass! Something tells me this isn’t the only time he treats you bad

Reconsidering the relationship because you don’t have his back over mushrooms?! I think he’s been watching too much MAFS

You should leave him first for being rude to waiting staff.

How did he react when you dumped him? Because that's surely the action you would take in this situation.

Man makes mistake about mushrooms.

Tries to gaslight 2 women to fix it for him so he doesn’t have to admit he’s wrong.

Why would you want to be with such a melt?

If there’s one thing I’d like to tell my younger self, it’s that a shitty boyfriend is not better than no boyfriend. it’s much worse and will fuck you up.

Gather up your self esteem and walk away from this waste of time.

Wow. What's wrong with him? HE was embarassing not you. Does he usually treats you like this?

Is he allergic to mushrooms?
Does he have an eating disorder?
Is he five?

If none of the above he's clearly a dick. But the waiter should've just immediately apologised and switched it, rather than seemingly spending ages questioning the customer, to the point he's now going to divorce his partner over the subject?!

That'll make an interesting Tripadvisor review.

hes a psycho who can't regulate his emotions bin him off

Urgh, what a catch he sounds

He was BU for being rude, embarrassing you and being mean to you when you cried. Making a mistake is nothing compared to being deliberately cruel.

If you put up with this it will happen over and over, do yourself a favour and ditch him.

He’s a twat. You can do better. It really isn’t you, it’s him!!

Hmm

A grown man arguing with a waitress who isn't paid enough - ick

Someone not standing up for me - relationship ending

He's unreasonable but girl, it's important to support your man in other areas of life - maybe this is the last straw for him, not sure?

You're fine without him though, arguing with the waitress instead of just letting it go is unattractive x

This 👆👆

i can understand it if you feel stranded against DH and his parents, but expecting your partner to join you in proving a waitress wrong / gaslighting them into believing they were wrong isn’t the same.

Ugh. Another daft question to which you should already know the answer.

Agreed on all counts.

OP, why are you in a relationship with this cunt?

I think the question is not, why does he want to end the relationship over this, but, why don't you?

Agree with this