DP wants to end relationship over misunderstanding with waitress

[Butterfly75756]

Went out for a meal with DP and all was going well. That was, until the mains arrived, and DP was adamant he had ordered his meal without mushrooms, yet his food had arrived containing them. A bit of a back and forth started between him and the waitress, who was saying DP definitely didn't ask for no mushrooms.

DP then turns to me and says something along the lines of, "Tell her I ordered no mushrooms". I immediately felt embarrassed and mumbled, "I can't remember". I hate confrontation and I genuinely couldn't remember.

The waitress eventually took the food back to go and fix the apparent mistake and DP was absolutely fuming saying even if I couldn't remember, I should have lied and said that I did and he kept repeating "Don't you know I don't like mushrooms?" After about 20 mins of being in a strop, he said that he would now have to reconsider the relationship as he doesn't want to be with someone who 'doesn't have his back'

Like the emotional wreck that I am, I began crying at the table and he told me to stop because I was embarrassing him.

So my question is, was I wrong to say I couldn't remember or should I have lied?

Massive red flag. The way he spoke to you and the waitress would give me the ick. What an immature dick. He’s threatening to end your relationship over bloody mushrooms. Why are you putting up with this behaviour? You deserve better.

Crikey, if this is how he reacts over mushrooms how will he react over a real problem? Definitely save yourself from this man and get rid.

Yes! You should be dumping him.

WHAT A SILLY SPOILT BABY HE IS!
I had naughty children who behaved better than that!

😂

Rude, immature, nasty to the waitress, turned a minor inconvenience into a major dispute and made you cry, have I missed anything out? He managed all this while out for a meal, dread to think what he would be like if something really troubling or difficult happened.

All that over mushrooms?!

I used to know a man like this. He was totally skint, but loved showing off to good looking women, so would invite them out for dinner but make up a problem and cause such a huge row purely to get it comped on the house.

He's still very much single, last time I heard.

I'm not sure @Butterfly75756 has dumped him.

If you aren't living together.....

P wants to end relationship over misunderstanding with waitress.

Good.

This tosser doesn't deserve your tears.

Get rid of him.

Jesus christ.
Please don't ask if you were wrong. You are not. Don't focus on that.
Focus on how he treated you. You got upset and he was worried about you embarrassing him?

This man does not value you.

Please do not sit around and wait for this eejit to decide if you're worthy enough to be with him.

He wanted you to lie for him so he could be "right".
He wanted you to stop crying because it was embarrassing him??!
He sounds like a horribly selfish person who cares only for himself.

Also, if he's really considering leaving over mushrooms, he's either extremely controlling and trying to scare you into doing what he wants, or he's been looking for a way out already and this is his excuse.

He could have just picked them out. It's not like you can tast mushroom in food unless you actually eat them.

A man who makes you feel like shit, isn’t someone you should be wasting your life with.

Your partner should make you feel good.

I don't like people who are rude and nasty to service workers and he was rude and nasty to you.

He's an asshole. Good thing he took out the trash himself.

Mushrooms are delicious.

I'd be tempted to swap the hassle for a mushrooms on toast for one lifestyle.

No you should not have lied. Could he not have just left the mushrooms on the side?

Don't have more involvement with this man-child.

If I were in your shoes, that would be it for me. I'd be done.

I broke up with someone once because he said to the waitress that his food was awful, followed by ‘this is how it should have been cooked instead:… …’

And I hope those were happy tears, ffs!

He’s making an absolute scene over nothing and putting you in the middle of it. I think your response was completely the right one in that situation. A lot of 🚩 are showing in his behaviour here. Run a mile! P.s. sorry you were brought to tears.

I am aware he doesn't like mushrooms. I just couldn't remember whether he had actually asked for them to be taken off his meal. I wasn't paying much attention when he was ordering.

He has bullied a waitress and intimidated you to the point of tears. He makes you doubt yourself and your own feelings. He likes all his power to crush others and cowtow without question. Maybe you are trying to diffuse his anger or feelings all of the time. That is not your job as he has to manage his own feelings. Slowly and steadily make your way out of this relationship He is putting out the blame for you to accept. Take no responsibility/ blame for him or his actions.

You’re in an abusive relationship

Bad service in that restaurant to argue with you like that.