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Female nurses have to get changed with a male. They are told to go to another room. The man keeps the female changing room to himself. Wtaf is going on?

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TealTraybake · 24/09/2024 17:22

Female nurses ‘forced out of changing rooms’ after complaining about trans colleague

NHS whistleblowers dubbed ‘Darlington Five’ say they feel ‘humiliated and dehumanised’

Read in The Telegraph: https://apple.news/AC7RGaXTPTYe2J4CAixEvDw

Female nurses ‘forced out of changing rooms’ after complaining about trans colleague — The Telegraph

NHS whistleblowers dubbed ‘Darlington Five’ say they feel ‘humiliated and dehumanised’

https://apple.news/AC7RGaXTPTYe2J4CAixEvDw

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TheKeatingFive · 25/09/2024 08:44

Nousernamesleftatall · 25/09/2024 08:38

It’s always middle aged men coming out as trans never middle aged women. It’s a fetish.

Funny, isn't it?

Katkins17 · 25/09/2024 08:55

Oh of course … sorry .. I was too busy doing my Nazi salute to type ‘her’ instead of him !

TealTraybake · 25/09/2024 09:03

TheKeatingFive · 25/09/2024 08:28

It's mind blowing isn't it? So much evidence right in front of their noses, yet they're still trotting it out.

‘ChungKing · Today 08:25
It's amazing to me that some people will claim no man would possibly become a "transwoman" in order to upset women or worse. I mean how many men trained as priests to get access to children (a much bigger commitment than simply changing one's pronouns)? A bit different, but serial killer H.H Holmes built a hotel with all kinds of horrific modifications so he could access and dispose of his victims as he pleased. Men have a long history of going to huge lengths to access victims, so why is it unthinkable and impossible than some men would use trans as a trojan horse? Not all, but some?

TheKeatingFive · Today 08:28
It's mind blowing isn't it? So much evidence right in front of their noses, yet they're still trotting it out’.

Anyone might think that these deniers have ulterior motives. I wonder What these could possibly be.

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Demonhunter · 25/09/2024 09:05

WeAreNotCookingTheSpoon · 25/09/2024 08:17

Oh of course some men identify as trans to make women uncomfortable - I'm not saying all do it for this reason but some do.

What about the Canadian trans person, Jonathan whatever his last name is. Would harass female beauticians who refused to wax his bollocks - they said they only waxed female genitalia as this was what they'd been trained in. He could have gone to a beautician who happily waxes bollocks. So he wasn't trying to force these women to wax his balls because he was desperate for a wax, he had other options. His "need" was to make women uncomfortable and to try and legally force an unwilling woman to handle his genitals.

Ah good old Jonathan "jessica" Yaniv. Haven't seen him mentioned in ages! Don't forget his predatory behaviour towards young girls too!

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 09:10

Demonhunter · 25/09/2024 09:05

Ah good old Jonathan "jessica" Yaniv. Haven't seen him mentioned in ages! Don't forget his predatory behaviour towards young girls too!

I had (happily) forgotten all about him, yes, he's as clear-cut a case of the man using a trans identity to make women uncomfortable as you can get.

MelodyMalone · 25/09/2024 09:13

WeAreNotCookingTheSpoon · 25/09/2024 08:17

Oh of course some men identify as trans to make women uncomfortable - I'm not saying all do it for this reason but some do.

What about the Canadian trans person, Jonathan whatever his last name is. Would harass female beauticians who refused to wax his bollocks - they said they only waxed female genitalia as this was what they'd been trained in. He could have gone to a beautician who happily waxes bollocks. So he wasn't trying to force these women to wax his balls because he was desperate for a wax, he had other options. His "need" was to make women uncomfortable and to try and legally force an unwilling woman to handle his genitals.

Didn't he also make a practice of targeting women who worked on their own, usually from home, often ethnic minorities, and then try to sue them for discrimination when they refused to treat him?

I mean everyone needs a hobby, but come on.

Demonhunter · 25/09/2024 09:15

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:13

So reasons people on this thread believe people are trans - so far:

  1. to make women uncomfortable
  2. a sexual perversion.

Any others?

Do I think someone like Blaire is trans due to a fetish - NO, but Blaire doesn't claim to be anything but male and is open about that and think women absolutely deserve single sex spaces.

Do I think "skirt goes spinny, my penis is female, I have periods and period pains with no female reproductive organs, what about infertile women or women with hysterectomies they are like me, lesbians must accept me in their dating pool, I have a right to be around naked or vulnerable women if I say so, I am a woman because of what I visually see as a woman and dress and act as my perception of a woman because I have NO WAY to know what a woman feels because I am not an adult female of the human species, I am now a mother not a father even though my male gametes created my offspring" are doing it from sexual fetish and delusion - YES.

lifeturnsonadime · 25/09/2024 09:19

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:13

So reasons people on this thread believe people are trans - so far:

  1. to make women uncomfortable
  2. a sexual perversion.

Any others?

It doesn’t matter WHY they think they are women. The fact is that they are men and they can’t compel anyone to believe otherwise or to be in spaces reserved for females.

These women have been badly let down.

TorturedParentsDepartment · 25/09/2024 09:21

It's the NHS which is unfortunately captured to fuck and full of EDI leads with rainbow lanyards who only seem concerned with making sure trans isn't discriminated against and is celebrated.

And to add to the anecdotes - I don't work in-patient (I'm community and our dress policy tends to be rather flouted), but when I've gone in to shadow my acute colleagues for some in-patient experience - it's been change into uniform when you get there (or IPC will have you) and there's no changing room - it's nick the boss's office if she's not in, or go into the loos.

TheKeatingFive · 25/09/2024 09:22

We need to acknowledge that there are all kinds of individuals currently sheltering under the 'trans' umbrella.

Some of them quite clearly wish harm on women. How can anyone look at Isla Bryson, Barbie Khardashian, Katie Dolatowski for example and conclude anything else?

I hand no doubt people with genuine dysphoria exist. However, I would have thought these men would be extremely conscious of the impact they would have on vulnerable women in women's spaces and would not want to cause others distress. They would be looking for private spaces, not muscling in on women's.

Good men, trans or otherwise, would not do what this individual is doing.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 25/09/2024 09:24

I really hope the nurses in this issue know they are supported. I really admire them for going public about the letter threatening grievances.
and I hope they know that, should the trust be complete idiotic captured misogynistic twats and follow through with disciplinary actions, then I feel sure that we’re all up for some autumn gardening.

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:26

Naunet · 25/09/2024 08:29

Define transwoman

Why? You already have a definition right? It’s “men claiming to be women”. Or have I misunderstood?

MelodyMalone · 25/09/2024 09:27

Yes I agree, and I would question whether anything this individual is doing contravenes the NMC Code, particularly the requirement to work co-operatively with colleagues. You can argue that changing arrangements are separate from working practice, but it surely has a knock on effect on working relationships.

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:27

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 08:23

"it sounds to me that this is a man who wanted to use the changing rooms"

fixed it

So you are disputing that this person is trans?
Or you just don’t believe that being trans is an actual thing?

Demonhunter · 25/09/2024 09:28

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:26

Why? You already have a definition right? It’s “men claiming to be women”. Or have I misunderstood?

Ok define woman and then say how a transwoman is one.

Kendodd · 25/09/2024 09:29

Actually, I love this. I hope all the female nurses are in the office and not one of them are in the changing room. Makes a brilliant point. Next thing I hope happens is that the transwoman demands to move to the office as well so they can change with the women and brings some sort of claim against the hospital for excluding them. Oh, please, please, please let a case like that go to court. 'I demand to see women undress!'

PepaWepa · 25/09/2024 09:29

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:26

Why? You already have a definition right? It’s “men claiming to be women”. Or have I misunderstood?

Men parading as women

Skyrainlight · 25/09/2024 09:30

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 08:33

SHE declares HERSELF female you BIGOT!

Just because a man wishes to be viewed as a woman it doesn't mean everyone else has to bow down and agree with the version of they have of themself in their head. We are perfectly entitled to view people as they have been seen for millennia, based on how how they were born and their biology. I don't get how the whole trans movement screams and shouts for tolerance yet gives none of the same back to women. I'm fine if someone wants to be trans, do your thing, just stay out of private female spaces and don't expect me to suddenly change my whole view of male and female.

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:30

Demonhunter · 25/09/2024 09:28

Ok define woman and then say how a transwoman is one.

Why?

Demonhunter · 25/09/2024 09:31

@pepawepa I prefer the term LARPing

Demonhunter · 25/09/2024 09:32

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:30

Why?

Why not? If you think that transwomen should be treated as women, tell us why. What makes them a woman?

Kendodd · 25/09/2024 09:33

Twoshoesnewshoes · 25/09/2024 09:24

I really hope the nurses in this issue know they are supported. I really admire them for going public about the letter threatening grievances.
and I hope they know that, should the trust be complete idiotic captured misogynistic twats and follow through with disciplinary actions, then I feel sure that we’re all up for some autumn gardening.

I'm sorry, not read full thread, but are the female nurses being disciplined for changing in the office and not with the transwoman?

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 09:35

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:27

(A book for which she interviewed no trans people, but exclusively clinicians who already took a strong viewpoint apposing trans affirming healthcare? Does this methodology trouble you at all?)

But anyways-
So in the minds of users on this thread-
women chose to be trans because they are predators and sexual deviants.
Trans men and children are confused into being because they are vulnerable and victimised?

That - is some class A bullshit. I've read it, and spoken to her and thats not true.

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 09:36

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:30

Why?

Because words and their definition MATTER

thats how we got in this sorry mess.

What is a trans woman?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/09/2024 09:36

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:30

Why?

If you want people to agree that trans women are women then you should be able to explain why you think the statement is true.

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