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Female nurses have to get changed with a male. They are told to go to another room. The man keeps the female changing room to himself. Wtaf is going on?

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TealTraybake · 24/09/2024 17:22

Female nurses ‘forced out of changing rooms’ after complaining about trans colleague

NHS whistleblowers dubbed ‘Darlington Five’ say they feel ‘humiliated and dehumanised’

Read in The Telegraph: https://apple.news/AC7RGaXTPTYe2J4CAixEvDw

Female nurses ‘forced out of changing rooms’ after complaining about trans colleague — The Telegraph

NHS whistleblowers dubbed ‘Darlington Five’ say they feel ‘humiliated and dehumanised’

https://apple.news/AC7RGaXTPTYe2J4CAixEvDw

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PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:37

Skyrainlight · 25/09/2024 09:30

Just because a man wishes to be viewed as a woman it doesn't mean everyone else has to bow down and agree with the version of they have of themself in their head. We are perfectly entitled to view people as they have been seen for millennia, based on how how they were born and their biology. I don't get how the whole trans movement screams and shouts for tolerance yet gives none of the same back to women. I'm fine if someone wants to be trans, do your thing, just stay out of private female spaces and don't expect me to suddenly change my whole view of male and female.

By “tolerance for women”, you mean tolerance for your assertions that you are “perfectly entitled” to “view people” as you like- and presumably treat them as such(?) - regardless of their dignity and lived experience and no matter how cruel, harmful and degrading it is to the person?

And this is ok because you are a woman?

Meanwhile it doesn’t matter why people are trans- (I mean why bother to understand it?) - however, what we do of course know is that some trans people are “doing it” just to harass women? And , according to one pp , if we ignored them they’d “soon get bored”?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/09/2024 09:38

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:27

So you are disputing that this person is trans?
Or you just don’t believe that being trans is an actual thing?

I think what people are saying is that this person is male. Whether they are trans or not should actually be entirely irrelevant, because being trans is a feeling that some people have and it's not a good reason to compromise other people's safety and dignity.

lifeturnsonadime · 25/09/2024 09:38

Kendodd · 25/09/2024 09:33

I'm sorry, not read full thread, but are the female nurses being disciplined for changing in the office and not with the transwoman?

I think it’s worth reading the article at the very least the employers advised them not to complain. Which is very sinister if you think about it,

This is what bothers me so much about trans rights activism much of it is about compelling women & girls to lower boundaries and threatening them with accusations of wrong think or transphobia for wanting reasonable safeguarding from all men.

Coruscations · 25/09/2024 09:38

StellaGreen · 24/09/2024 17:55

But even if he is trying to get his wife pregnant and walks about in his undies with visible manhood on show, it doesn’t matter because he is a vulnerable trans woman.
It is Bigoted to think otherwise and women should really reframe their thinking.

Do we actually have evidence that the person concerned in this report is doing that?

TheEyesOfLucyJordon · 25/09/2024 09:38

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:13

So reasons people on this thread believe people are trans - so far:

  1. to make women uncomfortable
  2. a sexual perversion.

Any others?

I have no fucks to give as to why people transition. But males in females only spaces will make many females uncomfortable.

If natal males can't see that, then ...... they're really not womaning correctly. Perhaps they should piss off and use their own areas.

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 09:39

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:37

By “tolerance for women”, you mean tolerance for your assertions that you are “perfectly entitled” to “view people” as you like- and presumably treat them as such(?) - regardless of their dignity and lived experience and no matter how cruel, harmful and degrading it is to the person?

And this is ok because you are a woman?

Meanwhile it doesn’t matter why people are trans- (I mean why bother to understand it?) - however, what we do of course know is that some trans people are “doing it” just to harass women? And , according to one pp , if we ignored them they’d “soon get bored”?

Edited

This man is hardly treating those poor women with dignity or respecting how they feel based on their lived experience, is he?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/09/2024 09:39

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:37

By “tolerance for women”, you mean tolerance for your assertions that you are “perfectly entitled” to “view people” as you like- and presumably treat them as such(?) - regardless of their dignity and lived experience and no matter how cruel, harmful and degrading it is to the person?

And this is ok because you are a woman?

Meanwhile it doesn’t matter why people are trans- (I mean why bother to understand it?) - however, what we do of course know is that some trans people are “doing it” just to harass women? And , according to one pp , if we ignored them they’d “soon get bored”?

Edited

It's cruel, harmful and degrading to women to expect them to undress in the presence of a male colleague (let alone one who prances round in his underwear, makes inappropriate comments and talks about his sex life at the same time).

Why don't you care about that?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/09/2024 09:40

Coruscations · 25/09/2024 09:38

Do we actually have evidence that the person concerned in this report is doing that?

It's been widely reported.

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:40

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/09/2024 09:36

If you want people to agree that trans women are women then you should be able to explain why you think the statement is true.

I’m not trying to get you to agree with anything: I know it’s futile.

I was just asking questions to clarify people’s statements.

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 09:40

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:37

By “tolerance for women”, you mean tolerance for your assertions that you are “perfectly entitled” to “view people” as you like- and presumably treat them as such(?) - regardless of their dignity and lived experience and no matter how cruel, harmful and degrading it is to the person?

And this is ok because you are a woman?

Meanwhile it doesn’t matter why people are trans- (I mean why bother to understand it?) - however, what we do of course know is that some trans people are “doing it” just to harass women? And , according to one pp , if we ignored them they’d “soon get bored”?

Edited

Males are not Females however they feel. That is not a view, not a belief, not a perspective, not one subject to being perfectly entitled to, or not.

it is a fact, as much aa fact as the sky is blue and water is wet

Males are not females. not now not ever

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 09:41

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:40

I’m not trying to get you to agree with anything: I know it’s futile.

I was just asking questions to clarify people’s statements.

And we are asking you to clarify yours.

what is a trans woman?

Pussycat22 · 25/09/2024 09:43

I'd get undressed in front of him /her that would serve him/her right. Put them off their breakfast!!!

Demonhunter · 25/09/2024 09:44

"Lived experience" I hate that term. All experience is lived experience. It's used to try and justify viewpoints without having to give an explanation behind it.

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:45

TheEyesOfLucyJordon · 25/09/2024 09:38

I have no fucks to give as to why people transition. But males in females only spaces will make many females uncomfortable.

If natal males can't see that, then ...... they're really not womaning correctly. Perhaps they should piss off and use their own areas.

Perhaps they should piss off

by “they” you mean trans women?

Demonhunter · 25/09/2024 09:45

Pussycat22 · 25/09/2024 09:43

I'd get undressed in front of him /her that would serve him/her right. Put them off their breakfast!!!

😂😂😂

DorotheaDiamond · 25/09/2024 09:46

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 09:35

That - is some class A bullshit. I've read it, and spoken to her and thats not true.

Agreed. The book is about the disgraceful lack of evidence for any of the treatments being handed out to “trans” kids…there’s actually something very wrong with people saying that kids with gender dysphoria don’t deserve the same standard of medical care as everyone else and should just get whatever they want because “trans”…(but I digress)

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:46

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 09:41

And we are asking you to clarify yours.

what is a trans woman?

Why so you can argue with me?

Demonhunter · 25/09/2024 09:47

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:45

Perhaps they should piss off

by “they” you mean trans women?

You tell us what you mean by woman and trans woman before asking others what they mean by the words they use!

You're using the classic deflection tactics that's always used by those claiming TWAW.

TealTraybake · 25/09/2024 09:47

Demonhunter · 25/09/2024 09:44

"Lived experience" I hate that term. All experience is lived experience. It's used to try and justify viewpoints without having to give an explanation behind it.

Agreed.

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DrummingMousWife · 25/09/2024 09:48

Why did they not turn the extra office space into the transgender changing room? Everyone would have been happy. This is a fight that clearly wasn’t needed

TheKeatingFive · 25/09/2024 09:48

there’s actually something very wrong with people saying that kids with gender dysphoria don’t deserve the same standard of medical care as everyone else

This will forever blow my mind.

Imagine thinking you're advocating for these kids, but arguing against them having properly evidenced care?

PepaWepa · 25/09/2024 09:48

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:46

Why so you can argue with me?

Why can't you answer the question?

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 09:48

They never will answer this. At best, they'll just parrot transwomen are anyone who says they're women. It's pointless asking really.

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 09:49

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:46

Why so you can argue with me?

No, because you don't know. If you take the time to write down what it actually means to you, you'll see what a thin tissue of lies and misunderstandings it is.

However if I am wrong about you

Prove it.

Leniriefenstahl · 25/09/2024 09:49

TheKeatingFive · 25/09/2024 09:22

We need to acknowledge that there are all kinds of individuals currently sheltering under the 'trans' umbrella.

Some of them quite clearly wish harm on women. How can anyone look at Isla Bryson, Barbie Khardashian, Katie Dolatowski for example and conclude anything else?

I hand no doubt people with genuine dysphoria exist. However, I would have thought these men would be extremely conscious of the impact they would have on vulnerable women in women's spaces and would not want to cause others distress. They would be looking for private spaces, not muscling in on women's.

Good men, trans or otherwise, would not do what this individual is doing.

Agree largely with what you say but what happens to a 24 year old transwoman on hormone blockers who looks very much female ? Like or not you’ll have shared a female space with one unknowingly, I’m sure and not been sexually assaulted. Not all transwomen are hairy 50 year old men with a bad wig and a short dress.

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