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Female nurses have to get changed with a male. They are told to go to another room. The man keeps the female changing room to himself. Wtaf is going on?

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TealTraybake · 24/09/2024 17:22

Female nurses ‘forced out of changing rooms’ after complaining about trans colleague

NHS whistleblowers dubbed ‘Darlington Five’ say they feel ‘humiliated and dehumanised’

Read in The Telegraph: https://apple.news/AC7RGaXTPTYe2J4CAixEvDw

Female nurses ‘forced out of changing rooms’ after complaining about trans colleague — The Telegraph

NHS whistleblowers dubbed ‘Darlington Five’ say they feel ‘humiliated and dehumanised’

https://apple.news/AC7RGaXTPTYe2J4CAixEvDw

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endofthelinefinally · 25/09/2024 08:11

Do we still get deleted for mentioning autogynephilia?

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:13

endofthelinefinally · 25/09/2024 08:11

Do we still get deleted for mentioning autogynephilia?

So reasons people on this thread believe people are trans - so far:

  1. to make women uncomfortable
  2. a sexual perversion.

Any others?

RedToothBrush · 25/09/2024 08:14

I fail to see how this policy is compatible with Forstater and the Equality Act.

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 08:16

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:13

So reasons people on this thread believe people are trans - so far:

  1. to make women uncomfortable
  2. a sexual perversion.

Any others?

I mean, it's clear this particular man is, at the very least, trying to make these women feel uncomfortable. He's looming behind them asking them when they're going to get changed, and watching them when they do.

endofthelinefinally · 25/09/2024 08:16

I think most posters on this thread are talking about the reasons MEN claim to be trans. The man in question here is openly heterosexual and behaving in an overtly aggressively sexual way towards these women. This thread is about HIM and MEN like him.

WeAreNotCookingTheSpoon · 25/09/2024 08:17

Oh of course some men identify as trans to make women uncomfortable - I'm not saying all do it for this reason but some do.

What about the Canadian trans person, Jonathan whatever his last name is. Would harass female beauticians who refused to wax his bollocks - they said they only waxed female genitalia as this was what they'd been trained in. He could have gone to a beautician who happily waxes bollocks. So he wasn't trying to force these women to wax his balls because he was desperate for a wax, he had other options. His "need" was to make women uncomfortable and to try and legally force an unwilling woman to handle his genitals.

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:17

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 08:16

I mean, it's clear this particular man is, at the very least, trying to make these women feel uncomfortable. He's looming behind them asking them when they're going to get changed, and watching them when they do.

I mean, it's clear this particular man is, at the very least, trying to make these women feel uncomfortable

on what basis have you made this assumption?
it’s not clear to me at all.
it sounds to me that this is a trans woman who wanted to use the changing rooms

WeAreNotCookingTheSpoon · 25/09/2024 08:19

endofthelinefinally · 25/09/2024 08:16

I think most posters on this thread are talking about the reasons MEN claim to be trans. The man in question here is openly heterosexual and behaving in an overtly aggressively sexual way towards these women. This thread is about HIM and MEN like him.

Very good point. I'm sure I previously read about this individual making inappropriate remarks. Ultimately I'm not going to be forced to be in my underwear in front of a male bodied person if I don't want to be. No matter what he calls himself.

endofthelinefinally · 25/09/2024 08:19

If anyone would like to understand the reasons why children, girls and young women believe they are trans, read "Time to Think" by Hannah Barnes. She has just won 4 prestigeous awards for her book.

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:19

endofthelinefinally · 25/09/2024 08:16

I think most posters on this thread are talking about the reasons MEN claim to be trans. The man in question here is openly heterosexual and behaving in an overtly aggressively sexual way towards these women. This thread is about HIM and MEN like him.

I think most posters on this thread are talking about the reasons MEN claim to be trans

by this you mean trans women?

TheKeatingFive · 25/09/2024 08:21

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:19

I think most posters on this thread are talking about the reasons MEN claim to be trans

by this you mean trans women?

No. She means men. Biology, y'know

WeAreNotCookingTheSpoon · 25/09/2024 08:21

They claimed that the colleague in question had “taken a keen interest” in them while they were getting changed and had carried out other behaviour that they found unsettling.

The nurses say that ‘Rose’ often spends a long-time walking around the female dressing room. On many occasions he wears only tight male boxer underpants, staring at and initiating conversations with female nurses as they are getting changed.
One nurse, who has experienced sexual abuse as a child, has spoken of her shock and horror when she was approached in the dressing room. Having never spoken to ‘Rose’ before, semi-naked and with genitalia visible, she was asked three times: ‘Are you not getting changed yet?’

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 08:22

When I use the changing rooms, I go in and get changed. I don't invade other women's personal space or ask them when they're getting changed. Nor do I watch them do it. None of the other women do either. This man on the other hand...

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 08:22

endofthelinefinally · 25/09/2024 08:11

Do we still get deleted for mentioning autogynephilia?

I've noticed any truly feminist issues get deleted from AIBU in minutes, can't be too noisy and controversial.

Be kind.

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 08:23

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:17

I mean, it's clear this particular man is, at the very least, trying to make these women feel uncomfortable

on what basis have you made this assumption?
it’s not clear to me at all.
it sounds to me that this is a trans woman who wanted to use the changing rooms

"it sounds to me that this is a man who wanted to use the changing rooms"

fixed it

MelodyMalone · 25/09/2024 08:24

Opentooffers · 24/09/2024 17:49

There's a simple solution, no changing room at all, wear uniform to work. It's what we do now. It's not seen as a requirement to provide at all for either sex.

Infection control.

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 08:25

It's amazing to me that some people will claim no man would possibly become a "transwoman" in order to upset women or worse. I mean how many men trained as priests to get access to children (a much bigger commitment than simply changing one's pronouns)? A bit different, but serial killer H.H Holmes built a hotel with all kinds of horrific modifications so he could access and dispose of his victims as he pleased. Men have a long history of going to huge lengths to access victims, so why is it unthinkable and impossible than some men would use trans as a trojan horse? Not all, but some?

Dweetfidilove · 25/09/2024 08:25

What an absolute shitshow ☹️. Wasn't Kemi demanding single-sex toilet laws a few months ago? Did that get anywhere or was it lost under the Rwanda farce?

Those weaklings we voted into government certainly fucked women over and I can't see this getting better under the current instalment.

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:27

endofthelinefinally · 25/09/2024 08:19

If anyone would like to understand the reasons why children, girls and young women believe they are trans, read "Time to Think" by Hannah Barnes. She has just won 4 prestigeous awards for her book.

(A book for which she interviewed no trans people, but exclusively clinicians who already took a strong viewpoint apposing trans affirming healthcare? Does this methodology trouble you at all?)

But anyways-
So in the minds of users on this thread-
women chose to be trans because they are predators and sexual deviants.
Trans men and children are confused into being because they are vulnerable and victimised?

TheKeatingFive · 25/09/2024 08:28

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 08:25

It's amazing to me that some people will claim no man would possibly become a "transwoman" in order to upset women or worse. I mean how many men trained as priests to get access to children (a much bigger commitment than simply changing one's pronouns)? A bit different, but serial killer H.H Holmes built a hotel with all kinds of horrific modifications so he could access and dispose of his victims as he pleased. Men have a long history of going to huge lengths to access victims, so why is it unthinkable and impossible than some men would use trans as a trojan horse? Not all, but some?

It's mind blowing isn't it? So much evidence right in front of their noses, yet they're still trotting it out.

Katkins17 · 25/09/2024 08:29

I was under the impression that self ID Isn't law in this country so this man had absolutely no right to colonise spaces for women legally.

But the NHS has decided to take it on itself to protect the male as if the law says differently ???

Women have had to fight for centuries to get basic rights.

A man declares himself female and the 'rights' shower down on him from heaven !!!!!

Naunet · 25/09/2024 08:29

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 08:19

I think most posters on this thread are talking about the reasons MEN claim to be trans

by this you mean trans women?

Define transwoman

Rennovating4Eva · 25/09/2024 08:31

This seems like a good place to link this thread...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5159395-employment-tribunal-case-to-protect-single-sex-facilities-at-work?page=1

[Edited to change link to page 1 of the thread rather than page 2]

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 08:33

Katkins17 · 25/09/2024 08:29

I was under the impression that self ID Isn't law in this country so this man had absolutely no right to colonise spaces for women legally.

But the NHS has decided to take it on itself to protect the male as if the law says differently ???

Women have had to fight for centuries to get basic rights.

A man declares himself female and the 'rights' shower down on him from heaven !!!!!

SHE declares HERSELF female you BIGOT!

Nousernamesleftatall · 25/09/2024 08:38

It’s always middle aged men coming out as trans never middle aged women. It’s a fetish.

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