She bought the same coat as me.

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I treated myself to a new coat and I finally wore it today as it actually felt like the right weather.

Met a friend for dinner and she said how nice it was where did I get it. She then got out her phone and bought it.

I feel a bit annoyed. It’s a coat so an item of clothing that you wear a lot, I wouldn’t be bothered if it was say a top or jeans - but I won’t want to turn up when I meet her both wearing the same thing. Aibu?

It sounds like a nice coat, where did you get it? 👀

If all you are worried about in life is your friend wearing the same coat as you you need to grow up! Primary school drama.

Just shows you have good taste

People can worry about more than one thing at a time. It's not a 1 or nothing kind of thing.

You should be flattered! She thinks you’ve got good taste.

With respect I think you need to grow up a bit op! I couldn't get worked up over this! I know a coat is a big part of an outfit but they can be styled very differently depending on the rest of the outfit. How often do you see your friend? Also please can we see the coat, I'm also curious!

What type of coat is it? If it’s a purple fluffy bomber jacket or something similarly niche then it’s odd she copied you but if it’s in the more generic category eg it’s a black north face then I wouldn’t think twice. I unintentionally have the exact same jacket as my best friend and my teenage niece! If someone else I know bought it too I wouldn’t think twice.

I think it's a really weird thing for your friend to do, it's quite rude really.

Honestly unless it's something designer or limited edition, it's going to be bought by lots and lots of people!

You can't claim the rights to a H&M mac 🤷🏻‍♀️

It's rude. She could have asked you if you'd mind as a courtesy, especially if you move in the same circles. There are plenty of coats out there. Next time she admires something you wear and asks where from, stay mysterious!
I can see how it might take the shine off a happy purchase.

This! Please tell us, we promise not to turn to where you are.

You sound like my five year old whining that her sister is 'copying' her. Thousands upon thousands of people will be out in the world wearing the very same coat. Get a grip.

YABU for not providing the link so this can become THE mumsnet coat 2024/25.

It’s a coat! My goodness. Me and my friends frequently buy the same things if we like it, share links etc.

For some reason with a coat it would annoy me a bit. It would be so obvious for the whole winter season if you met up or in photos that it's the same. Unless it really is fairly tastefully generic, like a black peacoat, or puffer coat.
But is also taken it as a compliment. I'd say it's a bit weird to do it right in front of you. I've done that with beauty products and makeup or other bits but not really clothes. Unless it's something like tights, vests, knickers. Not that I'd be that obsessed with needing guidance on panties.
For some reason copying my knickers wouldn't bother me. Haha.

Oh god this would be the ultimate compliment to me!

I love twinning my friends!

Twinsies! 👯‍♂️

Exactly this. I'm desperado for a new coat and have no clue where to start 😂

I’m sure it’s coming, it’s a dastardly plan from a canny marketing department 😉

I feel a bit annoyed

Why on earth would you feel annoyed?
I would feel flattered that someone liked my taste.

Let's see it and then we can decide 😂

I would also be annoyed.

Goodness me! Why?

Want see coat

"Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery that mediocrity can pay to greatness" (Oscar Wilde).

Not sure why you mind, OP, to be honest. No one ever liked my fashion choices, let alone copied them!