She bought the same coat as me.

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I treated myself to a new coat and I finally wore it today as it actually felt like the right weather.

Met a friend for dinner and she said how nice it was where did I get it. She then got out her phone and bought it.

I feel a bit annoyed. It’s a coat so an item of clothing that you wear a lot, I wouldn’t be bothered if it was say a top or jeans - but I won’t want to turn up when I meet her both wearing the same thing. Aibu?

Sorry my last comment was harsh and I can't delete it now which is crap lol but chill it just shows you have good taste

Yes, she should have bought it discreetly.

Yes I was going to say we can’t possibly comment until we have a link …

I get it.

You treat yourself to something, you look for exactly what you want, put the effort in and then feel great in it. Then someone whips out their phone, buys the same thing and suddenly it isnt special anymore.

Also, I would hate the "matchy matchy" look if she wore the same coat at the same time and wonder if people think I copied her.

Sounds like she doesnt have much imagination if she constantly copies you. Some people would say it is the sincerest form of flattery but I disagree, its the sincerest form of laziness! Letting other people do all the work and then nick their ideas.

@PyongyangKipperbang You've summed it up perfectly!

You dont own all the coats and i think your being a bit silly about it.
Just shows you have style.
What coat is it asking for a friend.

Agree completely

I'd be annoyed too.

God you are easily amused aren't you!! That is more pathetic tbh!

No I get it OP. At uni I lived with a girl, we even shared the same first name, who used to copy everything I wore. It was very single white female. Drove me fucking mad. I had to resort to getting everything vintage/ second hand it became so extreme.

She was a lovely person though. Bit posh. Maybe that’s why, being privately educated meant she hadn’t really developed much of a personality at that stage.

Anyway. I empathise because it’s so creepy.

Do people really not understand why this would be annoying?

I’m assuming it’s a fancy coat, or distinctive in some way or the friend wouldn’t have admired it.

(This does not apply if it’s a Dry Robe)

OK and?

Me and my bestie are always copying each other and buying stuff the other has 🤣

I get it OP. Friends wearing the same clothes is very much a teenage thing, they want to be part of the herd by wearing the uniform. Once you develop your own style, you want it be just that; your own. If you go for something that is a bit unusual or quirky, especially a large item like a coat, it makes a statement about you. If someone copies it, especially with something identical, then you're back to the gang uniform again, no longer your own person. There's no flattery in that, especially if that person had no style of their own to begin with.

I only wear distinctive, darling - I don't 'do' generic!!

Because you look fucking stupid if you go out both wearing the same thing!! Isn't it obvious? I never buy from Next (and never will again because everyone ends up wearing the same thing!) but I once saw a gilet I liked and bought it in the sale.

Went for dinner with a group of friends shortly after, and one of the other ladies was wearing the same one. I never wore it again.

Here for the coat too!
Come on OP

If all you've got to worry about is what someone is posting on MN, then you're very lucky!

Or.... would you say that a post on MN doesn't represent everything a person worries about?

Why would you even want to delete it? Shows your true colours ☺️

It’s not that her friend has the same taste as her as much as the friend doesn’t choose her own bloody coat.

I don’t know why people are calling the OP childish about this, it’s the friend who sounds like a teenager immediately getting out her phone to buy the same thing.

i totally get why you’re annoyed OP and I would be too. Oh and I too am on an 8 figure salary

Are you annoyed because she's bought a size or two smaller than you and will look better in it?

It's pretty obvious, tbf!

@kevinisnotacatname I object! Kevin is a very distinguished name for a cat.

I don't get it, if you buy a one-off then they'll design her something different / if it's off the rack then thousands have that coat. I have someone who does our laundry; she has asked about pants, leggings and dresses. I find that pleasing and flattering.

OP, how distinctive is this coat? Is it an unusual color or pattern? Does it have some sort of stand-out feature?

Yes I can see that’s frustrating if it was a real “ pick me up” purchase for you. She sounds as though she has form for copying and this can be flattery, but sometimes tbh i think it can be a way of not letting others have anything they don’t have. The most important thing is don’t introduce her to your next partner! 😬

My sil did this once and it did actually piss me off a bit too op 😂 it’ll pass.