She bought the same coat as me.

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I treated myself to a new coat and I finally wore it today as it actually felt like the right weather.

Met a friend for dinner and she said how nice it was where did I get it. She then got out her phone and bought it.

I feel a bit annoyed. It’s a coat so an item of clothing that you wear a lot, I wouldn’t be bothered if it was say a top or jeans - but I won’t want to turn up when I meet her both wearing the same thing. Aibu?

I am trying to work on myself ☺️

I have a new and much better job (no more crying on a Sunday night now) and I’m over my breakup. I just stop caring about how I looked for a good 2/3 years.

#yousoundabout7

It’s so rude and teenagery and would annoy me as there are thousands of coats for her to choose from. Why does she have to copy you and take the shine off your new coat? I understand some people aren’t confident with their own choices but it’s so rude to get your phone out to order and not even ask if you mind. Rude! Def go to charity shops or designer OP. Or say it was an end of line, gift or can’t remember next time.

Having said that four friends have bought the same sunhat as me but it makes us laugh when we meet up and looks quite funny.

Thankfully I only copied a friend of a friend who I really don’t see very often, not even once a year now so I just looked like a solo grape when I wore it.

I don’t think ownership makes you unique I just don’t like being a sheep and following the crowd.

Oh for goodness' sake . You both sound about 12.
Correction: ALL the comments going on about how rude, she's doing it on purpose to diss you sound stonkingly immature. Dress is NOT a freaking competition.

Shocked that anyone would be upset by this. I wouldn’t give a shit I’d just be chuffed someone liked my taste.

Nasty!

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Who would do that? I’d never buy the same coat as a friend, it’s just not the done thing. And you’d look like absolute tools if you went out together and both wore it.

Oh sorry! I misread that. I had imagined the coat was purple so when I saw “ mauvish” I leaped to conclusions!
Op it’s great you are getting your mojo back after a tough time. Try to just take it as a compliment because it’s either that or jealousy.

OP this is one of those strange things that seems to get people on Mumsnet competing about how unbothered they would be, but in real life most people would get a bit miffed about.

She was rude and I am not surprised that you are upset.

First world problems right here!
Not to sound sexist but this is something only women would ever post about.

Such a strange comment. I use the underground every single day and my sister would cry and have a panic attack if she ever had to get one. I’m not like wow I’m shocked anyone would be upset about an underground carriage.

Because I can actually comprehend that human beings think and feel stuff differently. Also I’ve never said I was upset, I said I was annoyed - they are different emotions.

And?

And what’s wrong with it being something women post about?

Show us the coat!!

You need to work on that confidence sweetheart - that's a bigger issue than the coat! Would you consider counselling? It sounds like you have been through a lot. Pay no heed to the challenged of thinking x

I’m not brave enough for a purple coat 😂, maybe next year and thank you

I wanna see coat!!!!! ( stomping foot)

I can empathise, went through something similar. Was getting over the very traumatic ending of my very abusive marriage, while in a job I loathed. I ended up seriously ill as a result. Looking good was the last thing on my mind. When I got myself together and started taking a pride in myself again it would have pissed me right off if I was looking in the mirror and feeling happy, only for Copy Cat to buy everything I had carefully chosen.

And, I dont know about you (obviously I did spot the sarcasm earlier!) but money isnt something I can freely just chuck around so when I buy something its a treat, its special. I cant pull my phone out and order something no matter how much I want it. So to act like something I may have saved up for can just be bought on a whim would take another layer of shine off it.

May not be logical but feelings arent.

Well turns out that’s just as well really 🤣

I understand you feel the uniqueness of your coat has gone & you will hesitate wearing it now. People also like to comment & poke fun if you turn up in the same clothing.

If it helps, OP, I know how you feel. Except mine is much worse - it's my elderly mother! She often buys what I'm wearing. I turned up recently for a family gathering wearing current fashion pants.... DM was wearing the exact same pair. She'd asked me where I got them. It frustrates me because I can't wear them to gatherings anymore, as it bothers me because people like to comment on it, implying I'm copying her!!

And only men would post about feeling inadequate about penis size. Men and women care about different things. Whats your point?

The correct answer (if you don't want people to buy it) is 'oh this? I found it in the wardrobe, can you believe I completely forgot about it?!'