To sleep with a 23 year old?

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Given that I am 42,he knows full well how old I am,we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older women.ok or creepy age gap?

Creepy. Way outside of the half plus seven rule.

Shag who you like and for whatever reason you want - who cares? He may be fetishising your age, but again - who cares?

It's not like you're marrying him, and even if you were it's nobody's business but your own.

Yes bit creepy. I had a friend marrying in a similar age gap (man being the older one) and found it very odd. But each to their own, I'm around your age but I don't date under 30 year olds.

I am 45 my son is 23 so bit gross would be like going out with one of his friends, wouldn’t do it even if I didn’t have a son that age.

Creepy on both sides. How are you not creeped out by this man fetishising you based on your age? And you actually considering someone who’s old enough to be your child just for a (likely disappointing) quicky?

He's 23 not 16.
His fetishes are his own business, so if you're both up for it then feel free.

You're playing into his fetish for older women. If you're happy with that, go for it. Personally I wouldn't.

Of course it's creepy. But presumably you were also looking for a much younger man, so equally creepy.

I couldn’t personally but 23 is plenty old enough to make their own decisions and I wouldn’t judge someone for it if they met as you describe

A bit eeww for a ltr, but he is a consenting adult but for a bit of fun, why not.

Yuk

Bleurgh

Life is too short for judgemental opinions. Sleep with who you want. You’re both single and old enough to make this decision without anyone else’s input.

I wouldn't fancy a 23 year old but if you do then that's between you and him. No point asking here, it wouldn't be for everyone, you do you, you'd be doing nothing wrong.

Do what you want seriously hes 23 not 18

But what if his friend was hot😉😀

Shag him by all means but don't expect scintillating repartee!

You are both adults.. fill your boots

You’re both consenting adults, if you fancy each other go for it xx

To add - the fact he wants to sleep with older women is very likely to mean he’s crap in bed and wants a more ‘experienced’ woman to be his teacher (massive ick in itself). He probably thinks (and would be proving as much if you went ahead) that older women are an easier shag target because they want to be validated about their ability to still ‘get it’ with extra points for getting a man half their age. So maybe in terms of ‘just a shag’ at these ages, it’s less creepy and just a bit sad really. One who can’t find a woman his own age to build a great sexual relationship with and one who just wants their ‘sexual prowess’ validated.

How and why is it 'creepy' for two willing, consenting adults to decide to have sex with each other?

You're both consenting adults. Crack on!

Are you ok with him wanting to think about his mother during sex? If so, go for it.

(There's every chance there's some Freudian stuff going on there. I won't tell you how I know...)

I am a similar age to you. So he likes older women. If you are happy with that go along for the ride. Have a lovely time but don’t expect anything for ever and ever amen!

Enjoy but don’t let emotions rule your head. x

Fuck, shag or have sex with.

How fucking twee is "sleep with" ? 🙄