To sleep with a 23 year old?

[Possomoppossum]

Given that I am 42,he knows full well how old I am,we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older women.ok or creepy age gap?

You want to have sex with a 23yr old that thought he would pass for 41?
I don't think you should be wanting to shag young and stupid, I think you'll be disappointed.

He's an adult so I think it's ok. It wouldn't be for me (I'm 36). I do go for slightly younger guys but they would have to be experienced and 23 would be too young. But then again I saw a gorgeous guy on TV recently, that shadow puppet guy, Matteo on Britain's Got Talent, so who am I to talk.

It sounds like a sugar mummy fetish if he's online specifically seeking a lot older. You have to wonder why he has this preference?
He wants you to guide him sexually, pay for loads of stuff, mother him, won't want kids (hopefully), probably you've a house he can move into? God knows but you wouldn't be getting the same out of it. Maybe just for a fling or one night stand but I doubt it'd be a healthy ltr.

Euwwww

So he lied about his age to lure older women in? My concern would be that the 'hot' pictures were also fake.

I don't get the issue. You're both adults and I'm assuming you're both single. Crack on as PP said.

Have spoken to him,video called on WhatsApp etc so I believe he is who he says.just that he is 23.

I'm 48, son 27 and I'd still find it creepy. Like me sleeping with one of his friends from school, or their Mum sleeping with him.

Then again...

@Possomoppossum make sure you're not some kind of dare.

Show us you're rubbish at maths without telling us you're rubbish at maths.

42/2 + 7 is 29

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I would never consider this personally, but if you're both on the same page go for it.

I think anyone 21 or over should not date or sleep with anyone under 18, but anything goes if both parties are capable of consent apart from that.

I.might be a hell of a lot older,but I still get lots of attention and would say I was good looking,so OK it might be a milf fantasy thing going on but I wouldn't have thought it was a dare.

OP has another thread about having no strings sex with a neighbour who passed ‘her’ a note about hooking up.

Please don’t share your own MILF/dirty neighbour stories.

I think it’s creepy! He’s at a very different life stage of life. It doesn’t feel right.

he needs a therapist!

No it's not!!

You'd be surprised at how low men can sink op.

Oh well then, why not.

At least he's super hot and will be extremely unlikely to have ED.

You have to wonder why he has this preference?

Lots of young men have a porn recreation/sexual experience check list that includes a milf/cougar experience.

So it's not necessarily a preference, it's just one thing they'd like to check off. They wouldn't be turning down other experiences (with women closer to their own age etc).

Also sometimes they think older women are less hassle for no strings sex, for various reasons.

It’s fine if he’s fit, otherwise no

For everyone "yucking it"
I am quite sure if it was 23y old girl and successful bloke of 42, everyone would tell her to lock and marry him faster.

Are you new to mumsnet?

No they wouldn't. They would say he was disgusting and predatory.

I don't feel old just because I have an adult child. I have friends only five years older. Just would not consider a sexual or romantic relationship with someone that age.

Agree with this.

This.
Manage your expectations if you want something long term.