To think husband is being unreasonable? a bra is not taboo/inappropriate

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I get dressed in the bathroom each morning after a shower. The night before I lay my clothes out on the radiator in the bathroom, including my bra so that they are warm when the heating comes on after I get out of the shower.

My husband had removed my bra this morning when he got up before me and put it in our room. When I asked why he said it was inappropriate because teen stepchild in the house so not right to leave it "lying around"...

Am I unreasonable to think this is really ridiculous? It's just a piece of clothing that 99% of women wear every day. It's not sexual it's a bloody bra. Not like I left a flipping vibrator lying around the bathroom?!

What a moron.

I assume it’s a boy given you didn’t say? I think a lot of teen boys would be embarrassed by seeing their stepmothers underwear regardless of how normal it is.

What a twat. I currently have mine all lined up on my very overlooked washing line. Quelle horreur 😱

YANBU - are you asked to keep your sanpro hidden as well?!

However, my dh leaves his clothes out in the hallway/dinning room for the next day and it does annoy me that the house feels like a laundry all the time.

He's being a prat. Nothing inappropriate about a bra at all, and the idea of a toasty bra in the morning is wonderful.

Is it a teen step son? If so then yeah they get weirded out by this sort of thing

You think teenage boys don’t think bras are sexual?

Yes it's a stepson... who is never too embarrassed not to leave his dirty underwear on the bathroom floor after a shower for someone else to move!

Regardless though, it's a perfectly normal piece of clothing. Why make it seem embarrassing/ taboo. It's literally just a bra...

Is it possible that the teen has said something to their dad?

I don’t think you should have to hide your bra per se.

But I wouldn’t like anyone leaving their underwear on the radiator in the communal bathroom all night. I don’t know why exactly. No rational reason.

A straight stepson? I think its right to help prevent any weird feelings he may have about breasts.

Haha. You should turn round to him and say, 'oh, don't worry darling, I think he doesn't mind. I caught him trying one on the other day. He thinks lilac is definitely his colour and I'm inclined to agree.'

Lol. My own teens are not a fan of my bra or knickers in sight. Totally mortifying was one comment. I nicely told them to get a grip

It's just underwear. Because some men/boys find them sexual doesn't mean us women should have to pretend we don't own and wear them everyday as part of normal life surely?

He is being absurd and the stepson is being set up to have all kinds of hang ups.

It's literally just a bra... it's not though is it or Ann summers wouldn't be in business

Oh op you have to buy one of these aprons with the Bra and knickers on it 😂😂😂😂

Sanitary towels sure. Bras no.

Oh no, bosom containers. The horror.

I assure you it's not an Ann summers lingerie set. It's just a bog standard piece of underwear.

Surely helping with weird feelings is to show that they are just normal items of clothing? Not hiding them away as if they are inappropriate. Women wear bras... don't see how it's different to a pair of boxers.

That would annoy me, tbh. A bathroom - if, like in our house, it's the only one - is a communal space. I wouldn't myself, and don't appreciate anyone else draping their smalls around the bathroom the night before. It's hardly as if you're going to get hypothermia from putting on an unwanted bra. Just put it on the radiator just before you take your shower. 🤷‍♀️

He fantasies about boobs.

Just tell your laundry shaming H that from now on, you'll be going braless at home in order to save the stepchild embarrassment. Can't very well have it both ways, can he. And also does he want you to put your tampons under lock and key?

I can understand why a teenage boy would be uncomfortable with seeing his stepmother's bras lying around on a regular basis. Personally I don't display my underwear round the house or on the washing line as we have 3 teenage DS who regularly have friends over and I think it's inappropriate. Could you compromise by putting your bra on the radiator but under your top?

Huh?
Tesco and M&S also sell bras
Anne Summers sells a lot more that bras....and not every day one's!