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Awful gift off DP and he’s being precious about it!

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Gertrood · 28/01/2024 19:37

My birthday yesterday. DP handed me a gift which turned out to be a hideous charm bracelet - clearly meant for children. Made from pure metal. I don’t wear jewellery at the best of times but would have worn something decent on special occasions - this however I would never wear. I’m normally a very grateful person but I half thought this was a joke until I saw how proud of himself he was so I said “it’s a lovely thought but I don’t really wear jewellery”. He said “well you’ll have to wear this as it cost me a lot of money, anyway you’ve not opened the other one yet” - so I opened the other one and it was a small bag of metal charms. Awfully childish and generic ones like a stiletto, a little metal car!? A unicorn!!!

So I said “as I said, it’s a nice thought but I won’t wear this, it’s for children” he said “it’s not for children! You dont have to wear all the charms but I do insist you wear this one that I chose especially” - it was a charm saying “true love” 🤦‍♀️ I’m getting annoyed at this point and say “you chose that one especially? So the others were just bought in bulk?” So he said “no, they were all different sets and I chose this one for you”.

I explained that charms on a bracelet are meant to at least resemble something to the owner. This stuff couldn’t be more opposite to what I’m like. I’ve never worn a stiletto in my life - I have no interest in cars - I don’t have a thing for unicorns!!??

Si anyway I said “I’m sorry if you spent a lot of money on it but I won’t wear it, it’s not me at all” I then suggested he give it to his daughter (12). He said he can’t do that as hes bought her the same one already!!

He’s in a huff about it but AIbU to think this was really bloody thoughtless? I’d have rather got nothing at all. It’s tacky as hell. The best bit, I looked at his eBay account where I guessed it was from and it cost him £2.99 - the charms were a job lot for £3 including the one he “chose especially”

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Theunamedcat · 28/01/2024 19:40

So he bought you and your daughter matching bracelets? Were they buy one get one free?

His attitude sounds awful

HussellRobbs · 28/01/2024 19:42

What a shithead. Please never buy him anything for his birthday or Christmas again.

2Old2Tango · 28/01/2024 19:42

Jesus, at that price are you sure it's even basic metal and not plastic? What a joke. It will turn your wrist green.

Tell him you're allergic to nickel (I am and can only wear solid gold/silver/platinum).

Is he always so thoughtless (and tight) with gifts?

5foot5 · 28/01/2024 19:43

How long have you been together? It sounds like he doesn't really know you at all, or has given such little thought to a present as to be insulting.

I think you were very polite in the circumstances

porridgecake · 28/01/2024 19:45

I think you can probably do better than him tbh.

SchoolQuestionnaire · 28/01/2024 19:45

porridgecake · 28/01/2024 19:45

I think you can probably do better than him tbh.

Agreed.

fairo · 28/01/2024 19:46

He got you the same one as his 12 year old daughter?! I'd leave him. Honestly I would.

SecondHandFurniture · 28/01/2024 19:47

I'd rather have nothing than a £2.99 eBay bracelet. What a cheapskate. Is that really what he thinks of you - not just to spend that but lie?!

fairo · 28/01/2024 19:47

I mean you say "DP" but I'm hoping you don't live together etc and can leave easily

BlueRidgeMountains · 28/01/2024 19:47

Pick him a load of dandelions from garden when it's his birthdays tell him you chose them just for him, same colour as his teeth.

Christmasnutcracker · 28/01/2024 19:48

"It cost me a lot of money"........I'd give it to his daughter and see if she wanted to give it to her friend so they could have matching 'jewellery'.

Tbh his lies and attitude would piss me off more than the tacky jewellery.

ChedderGorgeous · 28/01/2024 19:49

He sounds like a real charmer

Anniegetyourgun · 28/01/2024 19:49

ChedderGorgeous · 28/01/2024 19:49

He sounds like a real charmer

I see what you did there!

Gertrood · 28/01/2024 19:50

BlueRidgeMountains · 28/01/2024 19:47

Pick him a load of dandelions from garden when it's his birthdays tell him you chose them just for him, same colour as his teeth.

😂😂 love it!

Im pleasantly suprised, I thought I’d get lynched for being ungrateful.

Some of the other charms include a cross (I’m very atheist), a fairy, a cannabis leaf!! A sun with a face on it … just really horrible tacky stuff.

Hes currently arguing wit his daughter because she doesn’t want to wear hers either. She said it’s embarrassing! For once we agree on something

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AhBiscuits · 28/01/2024 19:51

Charm bracelets are ugly AF at the best of times. YANBU.

WolvesDiscoandBoogaloo · 28/01/2024 19:51

I was about to say slightly U until I saw the cost. Thought that counts and all that. But I've put things in the dustbin that are worth more than that!!

Auntieobem · 28/01/2024 19:52

Link so we can really judge???

AhBiscuits · 28/01/2024 19:53

Buy him one.

Awful gift off DP and he’s being precious about it!
Patchworksack · 28/01/2024 19:54

He was done - this one is is only £2.94

Also, you are done with him, surely?

Awful gift off DP and he’s being precious about it!
VickyEadieofThigh · 28/01/2024 19:54

OP - how long have you been together and has he got previous form for shite gifts?

splatmouse · 28/01/2024 19:55

It's not for children! That's why I also bought one for my 12 year old daughter.

He's not very consistent.

SharedAccountWithMySister · 28/01/2024 19:55

ChedderGorgeous · 28/01/2024 19:49

He sounds like a real charmer

Simon Cowell Wow GIF by America's Got Talent

applause

2Old2Tango · 28/01/2024 19:56

If he considers that to be an expensive present that thank fuck he didn't buy you something cheap 🤣🤣

Gertrood · 28/01/2024 19:56

Patchworksack · 28/01/2024 19:54

He was done - this one is is only £2.94

Also, you are done with him, surely?

That looks like the same one! Some of the same charms too

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BluJanuary · 28/01/2024 19:57

I was thinking it would be Pandora at first. I'd never wear that either personally, but of course that is a lot better than what he did get!