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To call my neighbour selfish

457 replies

Fedupandgrumpy1 · 21/09/2023 19:36

We live in a quiet street with about 10 houses in. I have mobility issues and also struggle with my MH. It's important for me to have as much sleep as possible so I tend to go to bed at 10.30pm and don't get up until about 11am.

Very recently a family moved in next door. They have 3 children who are lovely and not a problem. But their mother annoys me and I feel she is being selfish. She works strange hours and most days leaves the house to go to work at 4.30am. She drives an old car and the doors creaks when she opens it. She then normally sits in the car with it running for 5 mins before driving off. The father is fine.

I have spoken to her and told her about my health issues and have asked her to consider changing her working hours, replace her car or to park her car in a road away from the house. She said she was sorry that she disturbs me but she cannot change her working hours due to the nature of her job. She said they can't afford to replace the car and as its an old car she has to warm it up before going anywhere. She admits the door creaks and said that oiling is didn't help. She is not willing to park away from home and she doesn't think its safe to walk on her own early in the morning with no streetlights.

She is making me more poorly. I am now having to sleep a bit in the afternoon due go being disturbed and as a result am missing out on me time.

What can I do about it? I'm fed up of her selfish behaviour.

OP posts:
MansfieldLark · 21/09/2023 19:39

Get some ear plugs. She is going to work not having a rave

spidermonkeys · 21/09/2023 19:40

This cannot be real. If it is, you are being absolutely ridiculous

BoobyDazzler · 21/09/2023 19:40

^earplugs

SpeedbirdSquawker · 21/09/2023 19:40

I can't believe you asked her to change her working hours!!! I think you're selfish.

Greenshake · 21/09/2023 19:41

This has to be a joke. You can’t be serious?

WDIAROM · 21/09/2023 19:42

Her selfishness?? The only person being selfish is you. I’m so glad I’m not your neighbour.

RyanGoslingsTan · 21/09/2023 19:42

Entitled much? 🙄

MargaretThursday · 21/09/2023 19:42

Must be a reverse.
No one would admit to asking someone to change working hours.
On the unlikely chance it isn't: I'm sure she'd prefer not to get up at 4.30am either.

cuddlebear · 21/09/2023 19:42

Reverse?

Littlebelina · 21/09/2023 19:42

You are being unreasonable. Unless it's a reverse at which you are being unreasonable due to that!

Stompythedinosaur · 21/09/2023 19:42

You can't reasonably expect a neighbour to change jobs or make a major purchase based around your sleep. It sounds like the everyday noise you expect when living close to others.

Wear earplugs!

Pottomous2 · 21/09/2023 19:42

Wow. You actually asked her to change her job so you get more sleep . You are lucky she was polite to u!

Zingy123 · 21/09/2023 19:43

You stay in bed for 12.5 hours 🙄

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disappearingfish · 21/09/2023 19:43

I call reverse.

pictoosh · 21/09/2023 19:43

Ok I'll play. You asked her to change her working hours? Really?
So she doesn't disturb you going to work? Really really?

Bless you. You're a trier.

Whattodo112222 · 21/09/2023 19:43

Lol. Asking someone to change their hours

ricecakesareshit · 21/09/2023 19:44

Reverse?

SpeedbirdSquawker · 21/09/2023 19:44

Getting up for a 4.30am departure to work must be fucking hellish.

Sturnidae · 21/09/2023 19:44

Please tell me this is a reverse? Otherwise you are an entitled selfish arse yourself.

OnAFrolicOfMyOwn · 21/09/2023 19:44

the doors creaks when she opens it.

Call 101.

ChesterAndRaoul · 21/09/2023 19:44

Do you think she WANTS to leave the house at 4:30am?
That she WANTS to drive an old car that needs warming up and that creaks when she opens the door?

If she had a choice do you not think she'd have changed her working hours already?

You're delusional, you really are. Get some earplugs.

pictoosh · 21/09/2023 19:44

This has got to be a flipper.

TicTacNicNak · 21/09/2023 19:45

Poor neighbour must be wondering what the hell they've moved next to.

BranchGold · 21/09/2023 19:45

Earplugs for you.