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To call my neighbour selfish

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Fedupandgrumpy1 · 21/09/2023 19:36

We live in a quiet street with about 10 houses in. I have mobility issues and also struggle with my MH. It's important for me to have as much sleep as possible so I tend to go to bed at 10.30pm and don't get up until about 11am.

Very recently a family moved in next door. They have 3 children who are lovely and not a problem. But their mother annoys me and I feel she is being selfish. She works strange hours and most days leaves the house to go to work at 4.30am. She drives an old car and the doors creaks when she opens it. She then normally sits in the car with it running for 5 mins before driving off. The father is fine.

I have spoken to her and told her about my health issues and have asked her to consider changing her working hours, replace her car or to park her car in a road away from the house. She said she was sorry that she disturbs me but she cannot change her working hours due to the nature of her job. She said they can't afford to replace the car and as its an old car she has to warm it up before going anywhere. She admits the door creaks and said that oiling is didn't help. She is not willing to park away from home and she doesn't think its safe to walk on her own early in the morning with no streetlights.

She is making me more poorly. I am now having to sleep a bit in the afternoon due go being disturbed and as a result am missing out on me time.

What can I do about it? I'm fed up of her selfish behaviour.

OP posts:
Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 23/09/2023 05:41

I think the OP is a cat. My cat shouts at me when I start my car and sleeps for about 12 hours a day. She hates earplugs (chases them around and throws them in the air). She would also love me to change my job so I can spend my afternoons enjoying her “me time” (ie grooming herself on the sofa watching loose women etc). 🐱

FarEast · 23/09/2023 09:24

Oh, I agree. It's either a reverse or just a wind-up. I just cannot believe anyone could be that self-centered and STAY self-centered and clueless with the responses they have had.

And yet we're called "ableist." You can be disabled and still be an aresehole.

JohnsonandTrumpSittingInATree · 23/09/2023 09:52

Oh hang on a minute, is this the same OP from a few months back that used to lay in bed all morning barking orders at the husband and kids and wondered why her husband got pissed off? Reads very similar!

Bex986 · 23/09/2023 18:21

i am moving to a small village in the Yorkshire dales! I hope you are not one of my neighbours as I would tell you exactly where to go! The audacity and nerve of you to even think to call this women selfish!! Sorry but you are the only selfish one here. I can’t believe someone would have the nerve to ask a neighbour to change jobs or park away from home to accommodate your 12 hours of sleep so you can have your ‘me time’ wow!! I bet any money your neighbour would love to have some time for herself and a nice new car, and not have to get up for work so early, but life doesn’t work like that for majority of families. The world doesn’t revolve around you and your illnesses, and if you genuinely think that what you asked your neighbour to do is ok, then I suggest you get some help as that is not normal or reasonable behaviour.

CantThinkOfANameAtAll · 23/09/2023 18:48

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 23/09/2023 05:41

I think the OP is a cat. My cat shouts at me when I start my car and sleeps for about 12 hours a day. She hates earplugs (chases them around and throws them in the air). She would also love me to change my job so I can spend my afternoons enjoying her “me time” (ie grooming herself on the sofa watching loose women etc). 🐱

😂😂

icallshade · 23/09/2023 18:49

Jesus OP I don't normally say this but you are a massive CF.
It probably never occurred to you that you aren't the centre of the universe and she's just doing her best to keep a roof over her children's head.
I honestly think this has to be in the top 3 most outrageous posts I've ever read.

Why don't you do yourself a favour and move house if it bothers you so much living next to her!

JohnsonandTrumpSittingInATree · 23/09/2023 19:33

Come back OP, we need to know that you get it!!

(or are you asleep?)

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