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To call my neighbour selfish

457 replies

Fedupandgrumpy1 · 21/09/2023 19:36

We live in a quiet street with about 10 houses in. I have mobility issues and also struggle with my MH. It's important for me to have as much sleep as possible so I tend to go to bed at 10.30pm and don't get up until about 11am.

Very recently a family moved in next door. They have 3 children who are lovely and not a problem. But their mother annoys me and I feel she is being selfish. She works strange hours and most days leaves the house to go to work at 4.30am. She drives an old car and the doors creaks when she opens it. She then normally sits in the car with it running for 5 mins before driving off. The father is fine.

I have spoken to her and told her about my health issues and have asked her to consider changing her working hours, replace her car or to park her car in a road away from the house. She said she was sorry that she disturbs me but she cannot change her working hours due to the nature of her job. She said they can't afford to replace the car and as its an old car she has to warm it up before going anywhere. She admits the door creaks and said that oiling is didn't help. She is not willing to park away from home and she doesn't think its safe to walk on her own early in the morning with no streetlights.

She is making me more poorly. I am now having to sleep a bit in the afternoon due go being disturbed and as a result am missing out on me time.

What can I do about it? I'm fed up of her selfish behaviour.

OP posts:
CantThinkOfANameAtAll · 21/09/2023 20:16

Can you move bedrooms so you are at the back of the house?

(Actually just here for the deletion message because nobody asks a neighbour to change jobs 😂

MagentaRocks · 21/09/2023 20:17

I really thought this was a reverse. This surely can’t be real.

Cosycover · 21/09/2023 20:17

Fedupandgrumpy1 · 21/09/2023 20:13

I don't have the money to buy her a new car. Mine is on the mobility scheme so I don't even have my own car but appreciate that the scheme helps me. I do know that I wouldn't be able to afford a car myself so I know its not easy, but she does work so should have some spare money.

Wow.
You are so bloody cheeky.

Annoyingnamechangerperson · 21/09/2023 20:17

😂😂😂
best laugh I’ve had all day

ChocolateCakeOverspill · 21/09/2023 20:18

Nah, this is complete bollocks

Spareus · 21/09/2023 20:18

This has to be a wind up?

Jesseweneedtocook · 21/09/2023 20:19

This has got to be a reverse? It's a residential street where people have cars. She's going to work not having a rave.

The world doesn't revolve around you. As if you asked her to get a new car and change her hours. Wow, how can you be so entitled and self absorbed 😆😆😆

Dotcheck · 21/09/2023 20:19

Oh, OP

Pandora55 · 21/09/2023 20:19

Lol

mrsmoppp · 21/09/2023 20:19

I work nights so sleep during the day. Would it be okay if I asked my neighbour to change their working hours so they don't disturb me when I'm sleeping- get a grip and stop being so selfish

GrumpyPanda · 21/09/2023 20:19

WDIAROM · 21/09/2023 19:42

Her selfishness?? The only person being selfish is you. I’m so glad I’m not your neighbour.

Sounds like you missed the part where the neighbour is idling her car for several minutes in the middle of the night before driving off. Selfish and totally not on, may 3v3n be illegal. If she wants a warm engine/seat/whatever there are heater gadgets sold specifically for that purpose.

As for the rest of OP's list, yes unreasonable.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 21/09/2023 20:19

MrTiddlesTheCat · 21/09/2023 20:14

I can confirm that people like this do exist. My ex neighbour raged at my utterly selfish DH for starting his car to drive to work at 6.00 am. Apparently the law doesn't allow noise before 7.00 and he was going to report DH to the council. I assume the council laughed at him as we never heard from them.

Reminds me of my neighbour years ago when my dad had a work van. They went mental one morning because he'd woken them up at 3am. Except he was on a night out and about 300 miles away 🤣

I know the OP is claiming this is real. But it can't be real. People like this can't exist. Change her working hours to not wake OP? So, she can't leave home until after 11am?

Earplugs, white noise, brown noise. Improve windows, sleep in a different room. Even buying her a new car are more reasonable options than expecting someone to change their job.

There's definitely a selfish neighbour here.

momonpurpose · 21/09/2023 20:19

Please tell me this is a reverse no one can be this bat shi#%

SoRainbowRhythms · 21/09/2023 20:19

Fucking hell 🤦🏻‍♀️

Therealjudgejudy · 21/09/2023 20:20

Bahahaha...hilarious!

EvilElsa · 21/09/2023 20:20

This is a wind up very obviously 😂

Motherofalittledragon · 21/09/2023 20:20

You're kidding right? Can someone be that entitled! Wear earplugs.

GotMooMilk · 21/09/2023 20:21

The world doesn’t fit around your schedule and your neighbours don’t exist to facilitate your sleep sadly.

pictoosh · 21/09/2023 20:21

I know you're taking the piss OP but I like that expression 'spare money'.
I'm rolling it around my tongue now 'spaaaaare moneeeeey'.

Overthebow · 21/09/2023 20:21

I've got another suggestion for you OP. Why don't you change your sleeping hours to match your neighbours working hours? so go to bed at a time which allows you to wake at 4.30am when she leaves.

bracemyselfagain · 21/09/2023 20:21

You spoke to her and made all these requests that she make your life so much easier - and she politely answered the way you describe?

I'd have told you to fuck right off love.

WhatInFreshHell · 21/09/2023 20:22

Sorry....what?

Annoyingnamechangerperson · 21/09/2023 20:22

Overthebow · 21/09/2023 20:21

I've got another suggestion for you OP. Why don't you change your sleeping hours to match your neighbours working hours? so go to bed at a time which allows you to wake at 4.30am when she leaves.

excellent solution 😁

goingtotown · 21/09/2023 20:22

The post is a wind up.

Cosycardigans · 21/09/2023 20:22

Maybe you could move your bedtime to 3.30 in the afternoon, with some white noise on, so that you still get your 12.5 hours of uninterrupted sleep.